LoneWanderer
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Being socially inexperienced has hindered my ability to know what is and what is not appropriate. Therefore I seek advice from the more well versed and also from those who have a theoretical solution.
I have got a new job. I commute 2 hours on the bus each way. At lunch times I go for lunch at a fast food restaurant.
I seem to have gotten into a regular habit of talking to the cleaner, whom I discovered is 4 years younger than me by a recent conversation -- namely our Birthdays are one week apart!
Now I don't know how to move forward on our my POV 'friendship' - I say that abstractivly. I don't know if we are or could be friends. I don't know what to do. Because I am unaware what normal behaviour is, I tend not to interact with others.
How I met her: I smiled at her once when getting some napkins. I'm not sure why, i just saw her working so hard and I guess I might have felt something. Anyway thought nothing of it. The next day she starting talking to me.
In shock I was did not really know what to do or say. Feeling awkward and embarked the next day I said hi and talked to her about something I thought about the previous night as an apology for not saying nothing before.
So now everything we see each other and start talking. I've noticed recently that she touches my arm, sometimes. I've ruled out a cultural thing, so it could means she likes me or could just mean nothing. But since I am inexperienced I am not sure if I should do the same thing back, when why etc. I am not a touchy person.
I would like to see her in an informal setting to get to know her more. Now I've been thinking and kicking myself today. It is her birthday gone and I did ask her what she is doing. She said nothing. Therefore my question is was this an opportunity for me to offer to do something with her on her birthday?
I am not sure why I posted it here on this sub forum. Maybe wishful thinking.
Am I simply thinking too much?
I have got a new job. I commute 2 hours on the bus each way. At lunch times I go for lunch at a fast food restaurant.
I seem to have gotten into a regular habit of talking to the cleaner, whom I discovered is 4 years younger than me by a recent conversation -- namely our Birthdays are one week apart!
Now I don't know how to move forward on our my POV 'friendship' - I say that abstractivly. I don't know if we are or could be friends. I don't know what to do. Because I am unaware what normal behaviour is, I tend not to interact with others.
How I met her: I smiled at her once when getting some napkins. I'm not sure why, i just saw her working so hard and I guess I might have felt something. Anyway thought nothing of it. The next day she starting talking to me.
In shock I was did not really know what to do or say. Feeling awkward and embarked the next day I said hi and talked to her about something I thought about the previous night as an apology for not saying nothing before.
So now everything we see each other and start talking. I've noticed recently that she touches my arm, sometimes. I've ruled out a cultural thing, so it could means she likes me or could just mean nothing. But since I am inexperienced I am not sure if I should do the same thing back, when why etc. I am not a touchy person.
I would like to see her in an informal setting to get to know her more. Now I've been thinking and kicking myself today. It is her birthday gone and I did ask her what she is doing. She said nothing. Therefore my question is was this an opportunity for me to offer to do something with her on her birthday?
I am not sure why I posted it here on this sub forum. Maybe wishful thinking.
Am I simply thinking too much?