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This was a topic of conversation with a collegue of mine, one of the few I consider more a friend than a collegue. Ironically, this was not a week ago when her elderly mother was injured after a fall. I just learned this morning that her mother had passed away.
How do you deal with the loss of a loved one, do you tend to isolate yourself, do you enjoy and seek out the company of others in times of hardship? I wish somewhat I had used different words, because when we spoke, even though her mother was injured, she was starting to recuperate, I don't know what happenned in the meantime, but it was apparently very quick. I had tried to cheer her up and had spoken to her already of how to deal with the aftermath, how she could help her mother cope, etc. Maybe it was the wrong approach to use, in retropspec.
In context with the topic, I'm rather stoic when it comes to dealing with loss. I don't know if it's a personal thing or a family thing, but it takes a lot to get to me and I don't get overly emotional when face with loss of a loved one, since I had to deal with it rather young and see it as an inevitability that crying over won't fix much. One time I was called "inensitive" on the subject by a former girlfriend, but I think she was erring, in the sense that it's not like I do not care, I'm just not particularly good at expressing grief.
What say you on the matter?
How do you deal with the loss of a loved one, do you tend to isolate yourself, do you enjoy and seek out the company of others in times of hardship? I wish somewhat I had used different words, because when we spoke, even though her mother was injured, she was starting to recuperate, I don't know what happenned in the meantime, but it was apparently very quick. I had tried to cheer her up and had spoken to her already of how to deal with the aftermath, how she could help her mother cope, etc. Maybe it was the wrong approach to use, in retropspec.
In context with the topic, I'm rather stoic when it comes to dealing with loss. I don't know if it's a personal thing or a family thing, but it takes a lot to get to me and I don't get overly emotional when face with loss of a loved one, since I had to deal with it rather young and see it as an inevitability that crying over won't fix much. One time I was called "inensitive" on the subject by a former girlfriend, but I think she was erring, in the sense that it's not like I do not care, I'm just not particularly good at expressing grief.
What say you on the matter?