How to cope with being lonely?

[LostInside]

How do you cope with feeling alone? Some days I can't stand it. I listen to a lot of music and read current events. Sometimes I end up drinking a lot for a while then I catch myself because I don't want to die from alcoholism so I pull back.

 

[IgnoredOne]

Why are you lonely?

 

[I'm Fine]

Distraction is how I cope. I try to keep myself busy so I don't think about it.

 

[Fragile]

I listen to alot of music to, it helps me keep my thoughts at bay sometimes. Video games and movies work quite well too and I paint a little aswell.

 

[Adrolak]

Hope, find something to hope for, and hold onto that feeling.

 

[Swamp Yankee]

I'll second that. The worst thing in the world one can do is to sit all alone doing nothing. Find *something*, anything to keep you busy. This is not a perfect solution but it can help a lot for many folks. I hope that helps -SY.

 

[Darkness]

I sign up to work a lot of overtime just so I can be around people, even though I don't need the money. I listen to a lot of music and play video games. Here anymore though it doesn't seem they like are helping me cope though.

 

[PurpleDays]

Sorry Adro, when I read "hold on to that feeling" all I could think of was Journey.

 

[SkuzzieMuff]

Pick up a new hobby, or even go out to be amongst people and just people watch. By at least putting yourself in a public place, you'll feel less alone. Then maybe you could try to talk to people after you are more comfortable being around them. Trying to occupy yourself at home wont solve your problem with loneliness.

 

[IgnoredOne]

And you can always see if you can join any groups that might allow you to find others of like interest.

I'm quite sympathetic - it /does/ seem difficult to find friends after we are of college age. The way that society appears to be setup, we get fewer opportunities to get to know people, and people in general seem to have less time with the demanding lifestyles that we seem to be required to have.

Work becomes one of the best places to 'get to know people', which is effective but can feel limiting at times!

 

[LostInside]

I do most of the same stuff, music, video games and such. I just don't fit in at the night scene and I do not like going to movies by myself anymore.

 

[genfastsalts]

I'm really productive when I am alone. Hobbies help yes, but I think attitude is more important. I am a competitive person with personal goals so being completely alone just playing pool, online poker, reading, writing, exercise, etc. can take up so much time for me. I'm the only person at my college pool hall who plays more alone than with others. And I love it! I feel like a freak (in a good way) in this regard. I'm not even that good at pool.

If you're just doing something to just pass the time, it will get boring very easily. Find something that inspires you to at least Google "tips for __________". That's a good rule of thumb.

When I am truly 'down and out' lonely, I web-surf mindlessly. It gets pretty ugly because I have too many bookmarks and I am a habitually 20-tabber. It hits rock bottom with porn. This is what I don't want to do. It's really a self-loathing activity because I don't want to think anymore, when in fact, deep thought is probably my best gift.

 

[21acceptedbeingalone]

I use video games like an escape or drug almost. Playing them takes my mind off how lonely and sad my life is. I know it's not a good long term solution though since I am not improving my situation. I guess it's better then doing real drugs to get my mind off of my life.

 

[rosebud]

Do some activities, go outside. Actually do anything to keep your mind occupied. If you don't know, you should definitely try and look for the roots of your problems, that cause the loneliness you experience.

 

[doomslakien]

Get a pencil, write down the things you wanna do in live.
Look at that list everyday and try to accomplish something from the list.
Suggestions: Travel, open your eyes to other cultures, learn a new language, pick up photography etc.
Look around you and explore.
If you think need to be around someone, get in shape, dress nice, and above all be nice.
Most importantly, remember this that
You are the one that takes charge of your life and your neva too old to do somethin or meet someone in life.

A lonely person is just another bored person.

 

[Heartwood]

I keep my mind busy, too. I'll go to the mall or the library or something. I like to use the internet too to like learn about new things. I try to know a little about a lot of things.

 

[Reggie Jected]

I used to try and distract myself. Now I can't stand to do the stuff that held my attention because of the connotation doing those things imply. I've given away my books and video games. I don't dare try to find a new pasttime. Now I obsess over the feeling until tomorrow rolls around and I forget what I was doing yesterday.

"dealing" is a terrible thing

 

[sentiententity]

TV

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I cant deal with being alone or single for too long. I cant deal with isolation..that drove me
batty ,depressed and took me to a dark..dark place I wish not to return to or expeince again.

Even as of now...I have to stay inside cuz it's really too stupid hot to go outside.
Surfing the web is so...so..so fucken borning to me.

I do have friends..,but i feel disconnect to everybody abd every one.
I feel stuck and kind of fucken stuck at the moment...)(*&^%$# fresia!!!!!
Fucken one more week of this andIm out of this fucken place.

The way I look at it is...my feelings of loniness is telling me something.
My mind and body is telling me....Get off of your ass and do somthing about your fucken life.


my ways of copping with loniness is getting a GF or women in my life.
For a while she can make love to me, talk to me and hold me...
Dose that mqkes me happy????....NO
but it takes away my lonilness.

 

[condemnedsoul666]

I play video games, do origami, and sometimes read.
When it gets really bad i do everything i can to find someone to hang with.