Silvernight said:
Uh I'd gladly take advice on how to do it. Who said this is easier for girls? I'm a girl, and I like one guy but I won't even let it slip in any way, much less ask him out. Because if he finds out and he's completely not interested, I won't be able to look him in the eye afterwards and this is not something I can avoid. It'd be so much easier if he showed an interest first. Yeah right, one can dream
Well, I will tell you what has worked for me...
Ask the guy just for coffee or something, "just as friends". Tell him you know this great new place and have been dying to try it. If he's interested at ALL, he'll jump at the chance! If he's just not into you, he'll pass. And, since you didn't have your heart on your sleeve, nothing gained, nothing lost and you two can still look each other in the eye!
I had a
guy to do somethng similar to me once. We had some stuff in common and we liked each other and I think he wanted to see if there was anything else there. We met for coffee the first time. Went to a couple of concerts (we were both really into 80s music), and had dinner once. I think by the fourth "date", we both realized that, while we really liked each other, that's all it was ever going to be. But, we went places as "friends", so there was never any pressure! It was great. We did stuff together for a long time after that too. I moved, but I still talk to him via email once in a while. So, you might not get a boyfriend out of it, but you just might get lucky and find lasting friendship.