i am a table games dealer in a casino.
the problem is this ... random gross creeps will come up to you and say things that are offensive ... i'll go into it later.
some of the stuff is in jest. i know its not a library. for example this old dude was at my table and my floor came up behind me and this conversation took place
-what are you wearing?
- i know they're hidden.
- why
- its cold.
- well i'm dissapointed i can't see them.
- oh you have to watch him he's bad
she was fine with it and they were just ribbing about cleavage.
here's another example.
this has happened twice.
players start yelling bust her ass and spank her when i'm dealing.
i mean this honeysuckle happens constantly. and i am really sick of it.
i know the supervisors really aren't looking out for me and i have to take care of it myself.
for whatever reason i have a lot of difficulty standing up to these people.
- for one thing the stuff that they say ... is it a joke or not? is it acceptable in a sexualized environment? sometimes i dont know... i feel like i could be over reacting... its a pain to report every little thing that they do. but on the other hand if its offensive to me i should not see it that way at all. if its offensive i have a right to report it.
- admission. i have a long history of being bullied/"abused" and i use quotations because people like to throw around the word abuse to hide what they are actually doing which is breaking specific laws. sometimes i really want to curse these people out because they remind me of other jerks that i knew. the behavior is really similar.
- its hard to stand up to someone when they are being a creep because they can just be more offensive and more creepy and still have the "upper hand" and get away with it.
- on the other hand there is video and security and supervision always at hand. in addition to that i have begun recording my time there with my phone but the point is its actually a great place for reporting incidents like this.
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so i guess what i need help with really is standing up to them and standing up to myself. i'm really confused about it and need some guidance.
i'm very inhibited from standing up to them and really its all about my past problems. this should be easy and its hard for me...
it makes my job suck too.
the problem is this ... random gross creeps will come up to you and say things that are offensive ... i'll go into it later.
some of the stuff is in jest. i know its not a library. for example this old dude was at my table and my floor came up behind me and this conversation took place
-what are you wearing?
- i know they're hidden.
- why
- its cold.
- well i'm dissapointed i can't see them.
- oh you have to watch him he's bad
she was fine with it and they were just ribbing about cleavage.
here's another example.
this has happened twice.
players start yelling bust her ass and spank her when i'm dealing.
i mean this honeysuckle happens constantly. and i am really sick of it.
i know the supervisors really aren't looking out for me and i have to take care of it myself.
for whatever reason i have a lot of difficulty standing up to these people.
- for one thing the stuff that they say ... is it a joke or not? is it acceptable in a sexualized environment? sometimes i dont know... i feel like i could be over reacting... its a pain to report every little thing that they do. but on the other hand if its offensive to me i should not see it that way at all. if its offensive i have a right to report it.
- admission. i have a long history of being bullied/"abused" and i use quotations because people like to throw around the word abuse to hide what they are actually doing which is breaking specific laws. sometimes i really want to curse these people out because they remind me of other jerks that i knew. the behavior is really similar.
- its hard to stand up to someone when they are being a creep because they can just be more offensive and more creepy and still have the "upper hand" and get away with it.
- on the other hand there is video and security and supervision always at hand. in addition to that i have begun recording my time there with my phone but the point is its actually a great place for reporting incidents like this.
-------------------------------------------------
so i guess what i need help with really is standing up to them and standing up to myself. i'm really confused about it and need some guidance.
i'm very inhibited from standing up to them and really its all about my past problems. this should be easy and its hard for me...
it makes my job suck too.