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so we been together for nearly 6 years now. she is my first serious gf and im her first serious bf. 3 years into it we had our first big fight and we took a break for a month promising each other not to date other people. when we get back together i find that she got a tatoo and dated the tatoo guy, so it upsets me but i forgive her... mistake? 2 years later we have another one this time 5 months we take a break, again promising not to see anyone... on her birthday she ignores me, i find out that shes at a beach cabin for the weekend with her friends and co workers son which she ends up dating and starts to have feelings for. this happens a month into the break up. she doesnt have sex with either of the guys, this i know so that helps. i end up winning her back but things are so different now and i wonder if its ever going to be the same again... she tells me she wants us to work and shes working on getting her feelings back for me. she loves me but not completely in love with me. and i am absolutely nuts for her. we have been under a lot of stress lately with financial stuff, so i hope this high level of stress is whats hindering her feelings. the reasons for the break ups was because i didnt show that i loved her enough so she felt i didnt. in no way could i ever leave her. shes one of those girls that have a sort of power over you. being with her i have distance myself from alot of my friends cuz i try to spend as much time her with as possible. now that i show her love she says i smother her. she actually avoids sex with me cuz she feels awkward. she makes me sad and i dont know what to do. shes all i have now and i cant lose her. we are currently trying to work things out. she wants space but im afraid of losing her... i have distance myself so much from friends and socializing with others that if im not with her im sitting at home. the loneliness is unbearable, but i dont have the self-esteem any more to go out with others... shes the worst and best thing thats happened to me, if that makes any since.