Aleksandr
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Hi everyone...I'm just looking for some help, I really need it. Thanks in advance for responding. Sorry it's so long.
I'm 19 and I've been a foster care child for my entire life. I was shuffled from home to home about five times since I was little, so I've never had a read family until recently. Because of this, I have a lot of emotional issues and a lot of self esteem problems.
When I was 4 or 5, my second foster family abused me. They would lock me in my room if I didn't behave, sometimes for days. I was close to starvation quite often. I rarely went to school and I had issues reading and writing. Only when I stopped going to school for very long periods of time did the authorities remove me from the home. Because I was alone for so long, I was left by myself with my bad thoughts, and I think I developed a lot of self-esteem issues because of that. I felt like I didn't deserve to live because I felt like I somehow deserved starvation and loneliness. I've had nightmares ever since.
I've lived with my current family for four years, as a permanent member of their family. They've been nothing but kind to me. My new parents are paying for my college in full, which is more then I could ever ask for. They've involved me in everything they do, and they always make sure not to make me feel alone or unwelcome. I've gotten very close to my foster brother, Anthony. We're sophomores in our university and we became roommates this year.
The problem is, even though I have a great support system, I still have a lot of problems. I have social anxiety and hate being around crowds of people. I'm painfully shy and have difficulties talking to new people. I struggle with dyslexia and it takes me forever to read and write. I feel lonely and sad most of the time and I'm afraid of being seen in a bad light by other people, so I avoid their eyes and it makes me seem antisocial. My nightmares make it difficult for me to sleep. I often cry myself to sleep so I tire myself out enough to fall asleep at all.
Being roommates with my brother has helped a bit, but I'm too scared to tell him how I really feel. I want nothing more than to open up to him and be honest with my feelings, but I don't want him to be overwhelmed or afraid to talk to me. He's been the most loving and kind to me, but I'm jus t scared. How do I open up to him? What should I do?
Thanks again for your help.
I'm 19 and I've been a foster care child for my entire life. I was shuffled from home to home about five times since I was little, so I've never had a read family until recently. Because of this, I have a lot of emotional issues and a lot of self esteem problems.
When I was 4 or 5, my second foster family abused me. They would lock me in my room if I didn't behave, sometimes for days. I was close to starvation quite often. I rarely went to school and I had issues reading and writing. Only when I stopped going to school for very long periods of time did the authorities remove me from the home. Because I was alone for so long, I was left by myself with my bad thoughts, and I think I developed a lot of self-esteem issues because of that. I felt like I didn't deserve to live because I felt like I somehow deserved starvation and loneliness. I've had nightmares ever since.
I've lived with my current family for four years, as a permanent member of their family. They've been nothing but kind to me. My new parents are paying for my college in full, which is more then I could ever ask for. They've involved me in everything they do, and they always make sure not to make me feel alone or unwelcome. I've gotten very close to my foster brother, Anthony. We're sophomores in our university and we became roommates this year.
The problem is, even though I have a great support system, I still have a lot of problems. I have social anxiety and hate being around crowds of people. I'm painfully shy and have difficulties talking to new people. I struggle with dyslexia and it takes me forever to read and write. I feel lonely and sad most of the time and I'm afraid of being seen in a bad light by other people, so I avoid their eyes and it makes me seem antisocial. My nightmares make it difficult for me to sleep. I often cry myself to sleep so I tire myself out enough to fall asleep at all.
Being roommates with my brother has helped a bit, but I'm too scared to tell him how I really feel. I want nothing more than to open up to him and be honest with my feelings, but I don't want him to be overwhelmed or afraid to talk to me. He's been the most loving and kind to me, but I'm jus t scared. How do I open up to him? What should I do?
Thanks again for your help.