IsaaKC
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Am I being paranoid or is this really happening?
I can't help but feel that sometimes my friends ignore me.
I feel like I can really only depend on my best friend to see me through things, and I love him for that. I wouldn't call him my best friend if he wasn't someone I could depend on.
but I try to form friendships with other people because I'm human, a creature that is social by nature.
When it comes to other people, I feel like I'm ignored by them. I have two friends, I used to write on their facebook walls and text. They would get back to me but after a while, they just leave me hanging.
I've hung out with them on separate occasions. And they weren't some strangers I met online, one was an old co-worker, the other someone I met a debate competition.
I hear nothing from them for a while until they decide to talk to me again, talk for a litte and then ignore me again.
I would say I still call these two people friends, but I don't try to reach out to them any more, I only talk to them if they talk to me first.
Recently, I met someone in my biology class last semester, and I thought I found a good friend. Winter Break came around, we would hang out, talk on the phone, text, the works. I thought I found someone else I could depend on. For the past week and a half, she's been pretty bad about getting back to me.
Due to what I've experienced before, I felt that it was happening again. So a couple of days ago, when I saw her, I asked her if I was annoying her, maybe if I was texting her too much or something.
She told me it wasn't annoying, just that sometimes she forgets, and that she doesn't really like texting all that much. She isn't trying to ignore me.
I want to believe her, I sincerely do, but this kind of thing wasn't happening over the break. Like for example, last week she told me about a club in school that she joined.
I asked what do they do in that club and she told me and asked if I could show up to the next meeting the following day. I asked her what time it was at and where it was and she never got back to me.
She texted me the next day apologizing for not checking her phone until 19 hours later, 3 hours after the meeting ended, and said she hates her phone.
2 days before that she asked about attending a politics club meeting and told her I couldn't attend it. She asked me if I could come next week and told me some of the topics and I asked her a question and she never got back to me.
Like I said, I want to believe maybe she forgot, but when she asks me a question, I'm assuming she expects a response. And to go that long without checking her phone seems illogical to me.
I know the 1st 2 have blatantly ignored me and it hurts.
I don't know if she is.
If I see her again I want to ask her again and maybe explain that other people have ignored me and ask if she was being honest about not checking her phone, but I don't know if I should.
I don't blame her if anything I blame myself, because it's me they are ignoring. I want to know, if there is something I can change for the better, I can know what it is or if it really is nothing.
I can't help but feel that sometimes my friends ignore me.
I feel like I can really only depend on my best friend to see me through things, and I love him for that. I wouldn't call him my best friend if he wasn't someone I could depend on.
but I try to form friendships with other people because I'm human, a creature that is social by nature.
When it comes to other people, I feel like I'm ignored by them. I have two friends, I used to write on their facebook walls and text. They would get back to me but after a while, they just leave me hanging.
I've hung out with them on separate occasions. And they weren't some strangers I met online, one was an old co-worker, the other someone I met a debate competition.
I hear nothing from them for a while until they decide to talk to me again, talk for a litte and then ignore me again.
I would say I still call these two people friends, but I don't try to reach out to them any more, I only talk to them if they talk to me first.
Recently, I met someone in my biology class last semester, and I thought I found a good friend. Winter Break came around, we would hang out, talk on the phone, text, the works. I thought I found someone else I could depend on. For the past week and a half, she's been pretty bad about getting back to me.
Due to what I've experienced before, I felt that it was happening again. So a couple of days ago, when I saw her, I asked her if I was annoying her, maybe if I was texting her too much or something.
She told me it wasn't annoying, just that sometimes she forgets, and that she doesn't really like texting all that much. She isn't trying to ignore me.
I want to believe her, I sincerely do, but this kind of thing wasn't happening over the break. Like for example, last week she told me about a club in school that she joined.
I asked what do they do in that club and she told me and asked if I could show up to the next meeting the following day. I asked her what time it was at and where it was and she never got back to me.
She texted me the next day apologizing for not checking her phone until 19 hours later, 3 hours after the meeting ended, and said she hates her phone.
2 days before that she asked about attending a politics club meeting and told her I couldn't attend it. She asked me if I could come next week and told me some of the topics and I asked her a question and she never got back to me.
Like I said, I want to believe maybe she forgot, but when she asks me a question, I'm assuming she expects a response. And to go that long without checking her phone seems illogical to me.
I know the 1st 2 have blatantly ignored me and it hurts.
I don't know if she is.
If I see her again I want to ask her again and maybe explain that other people have ignored me and ask if she was being honest about not checking her phone, but I don't know if I should.
I don't blame her if anything I blame myself, because it's me they are ignoring. I want to know, if there is something I can change for the better, I can know what it is or if it really is nothing.