I just want to put out here a few make believe examples of real life situations. Things like this actually do occur but these specific examples are fictional.
Me: Hey Joe how are you?
Joe: Ok.
Me : so what's new Joe? What's going on with you?
Joe: Not much
Me: Wow, sorry to hear that.
Joe: Uh huh.
Me: So what do you like to do?
Joe: not much.
Jeff: Hi!
Amanda: uh hi.
Jeff: What's your name?
Amanda: Amanda
Jeff: You seem nice. What brings you out today?
Amanda: I'm here with my friends.
Jeff: So, what do you like to do for fun?
Amanda: not much
My point here is that we often find ourselves in situations where we give, give and give and don't get back anything. We make the social investments but get zero return.
Are these people high maintenance? Maybe.
So what do you think is a way to get people invested in you? How do you get people interested? Body language? Insults? Showing interest?
Jim: Hey Bob, what's going on?
Bob: Not much dude.
Jim: So what did you do today?
Bob: Not much dude
Jim: Wow you are really boring
Bob: yep
Me: Hey Joe how are you?
Joe: Ok.
Me : so what's new Joe? What's going on with you?
Joe: Not much
Me: Wow, sorry to hear that.
Joe: Uh huh.
Me: So what do you like to do?
Joe: not much.
Jeff: Hi!
Amanda: uh hi.
Jeff: What's your name?
Amanda: Amanda
Jeff: You seem nice. What brings you out today?
Amanda: I'm here with my friends.
Jeff: So, what do you like to do for fun?
Amanda: not much
My point here is that we often find ourselves in situations where we give, give and give and don't get back anything. We make the social investments but get zero return.
Are these people high maintenance? Maybe.
So what do you think is a way to get people invested in you? How do you get people interested? Body language? Insults? Showing interest?
Jim: Hey Bob, what's going on?
Bob: Not much dude.
Jim: So what did you do today?
Bob: Not much dude
Jim: Wow you are really boring
Bob: yep