There's nothing wrong with you.
Stop condem yourself or beating up on yourself.
You're internalizing all of these things as using it against you.
Fear it just a feeling. Everybody has feelings of fears. Hopefully this take the whatever morbid or moral perceptions about fears.
Courage is not without fears. I hope that makes sense. Everyone has insecurities.
It's taking actions or steping forward inspite of the feelings of fears.
Sometimes fears are good for us...it keeps us safe. Such as being fearful of a rattle snake. In this way fear works for us.
So bascailly fears is just a feeling built into our system as a survive instink to protect us.
Our consious mind also generate fualts perceptions or compensate in order for it to function.
In other words...our consious mind pretty much wants to keep everything the same..our enviorment,
our surrounds, our routine, our habits. And it use fear as perimitter to keep us our comfortzone or it can operate.
Alot of people have a hard time adjusting to changes
Do a little bit of reserch about fears...about how your brain function.
Read up on fears...how people had overcome or face thier fears.
There's simple suggestions...Simply follow the instructions.
Learn to identify your emotions..sometime people get fear and entiscipations mix up.
Becuase your heart is pumping faster...blood presure gose up.
Learn how to be an observer of yourself...not a judge.
Make a list of fears you have..comfront them or experience them as an excersize.
In this way you'll get familar with feeling those fears. The more you face them the more
your mind will adjust or You'll simple get used to feeling fears and not trip out so hard.
It bascailly just go through you if you don't latch on to it, dwell on it, focus on it, run with it. (it passes)
Simply recognize it, process it, then let go.
The process might take days, weeks, months or years...previously.
If you practice facing and experincing your fears...you'll simply process faster and faster.
It also depends on the level of emotional attachments you have.
Simply excersize processing and letting go...over and over again. Then just reshift your focus to your confidence or get back on track again.
You are not your feelings...
You're identifying yourself as your feelings.
You just gotta keep on practicing at holding hold to your confidence..no matter what.
It's like what I'm going through at the moment...I having some set back...sometimes I feel rejected.
But oh fucken will....
It's like this...happiness is an inside job. I love myself plenty. I'm a good person I know I am.
As much as I love her. I love myself a thousand times more.
My love for her comes from inside of me...not from her.
My love for me comes from inside of me...not from her.
I love her....get it? And there's plenty of love inside of me. There's oceans of it.
I can be happy with or without her. I'm ok with me ..with or without her.
I don't need her fucken permmision to live or breath..I'll do whatever the fresia I want. It's my life.
It's her fucken lost not mine. I deserve to be treated with love , dignity, and repect. If she's not willing
or is not able to treat me in such ways...will fresia her if she can't take a joke. I'll find someone who will.
She's just another human being.
Beside..it's not like I havn't had sex with hundreds of time already. And it's not like I havn't made her seen god or screaming "oh god..oh god"
I'm the honeysuckle !!! She aint the only chick that asked me out. i had plenty of women throw themselves at me.
Beside..she's not my only ex..that consider getting back with me or called me in the middle of the night here lately..tell me I'm one of the sweeties, loving, gental, caring man.
Everyone of them said..the grass wasn't greener on the other side and they kind of messed up. hahahaaaa
Will...I have plenty of confidence now...hearing that from 4 different women. So it must be true.
My confidence comes from inside of me..it too is an inside job.
Will priase yourself everytime you face your fears or a fear.
Everytime you accomplish something...no matter how big or little..Tell you're self "Cool or good job,
great you over came that"...don't wait for other people to praise you. Be your own parent.
Bordom is actaully a good thing...becuase it's your mind telling you it's time to change
and move on to different things.
You gatta learn how to be your own best friend. Have a good/positive internal dialog with yourself.
Be your own life's coach. Be your own CEO of your life. Be your own boss to your life. Be a loving god to yourself that will love you uncoditionally to yourself.
Br your own guiding light. Be your own guiding angel.
You live with yourself 24/7s..it's only commonsense that you be kind, loving, forgiving, encouaging, caring, compassionate, non judgemental to yourself.
You can't give what you don't have...Have these things within yourself first and it'll expand outward.
You won't be a vacaumme..but rather a light shining outward