Ashariel
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I'm trying to set realistic goals for myself moving forward, and would appreciate any feedback or insight on this...
Basically, my deal is that I'm an incredibly kind, caring, loving person, but I have Bipolar Disorder and Asperger's Syndrome - which means that I'm quirky and reclusive, I don't feel comfortable in group situations, and even with the best therapy and medication, I will sometimes struggle with extreme depression.
I've come to accept that a romantic relationship is probably not right for me (since I don't like being touched physically). But I would like to have meaningful platonic friendships - and this is where I'm having trouble.
Even with my own family, I can't have a completely honest relationship, and I have to shield them from the reality of my screwed-up feelings. My parents want to be there for me, but these are issues that even trained psychological experts haven't been able to help me very much with; so family and friends just feel helpless and don't know what to do, or say.
So it creates this distance in all of my relationships, and I have to constantly shield people from my true feelings. In a way, I can't have an honest relationship with anyone - aside from a professional therapist, who gets paid to listen to my problems.
I don't know. I feel a yearning to have friends, and not be completely alone, and isolated. And yet, logic tells me that it simply can't work. Or at best, it will only work if I lie about who I am, and pretend to be a 'normal' person, with 'normal' problems.
And yeah I can pretend, to some extent. But if it's just a lie... I don't really get anything out of that. Except a feeling that I'm a really good actress, and that perhaps I've made myself useful, and brightened someone else's day. But underneath is the sad acknowledgement that if my 'friends' ever knew how severely screwed up I am, they wouldn't like me any more.
So I'm struggling with that right now. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
Basically, my deal is that I'm an incredibly kind, caring, loving person, but I have Bipolar Disorder and Asperger's Syndrome - which means that I'm quirky and reclusive, I don't feel comfortable in group situations, and even with the best therapy and medication, I will sometimes struggle with extreme depression.
I've come to accept that a romantic relationship is probably not right for me (since I don't like being touched physically). But I would like to have meaningful platonic friendships - and this is where I'm having trouble.
Even with my own family, I can't have a completely honest relationship, and I have to shield them from the reality of my screwed-up feelings. My parents want to be there for me, but these are issues that even trained psychological experts haven't been able to help me very much with; so family and friends just feel helpless and don't know what to do, or say.
So it creates this distance in all of my relationships, and I have to constantly shield people from my true feelings. In a way, I can't have an honest relationship with anyone - aside from a professional therapist, who gets paid to listen to my problems.
I don't know. I feel a yearning to have friends, and not be completely alone, and isolated. And yet, logic tells me that it simply can't work. Or at best, it will only work if I lie about who I am, and pretend to be a 'normal' person, with 'normal' problems.
And yeah I can pretend, to some extent. But if it's just a lie... I don't really get anything out of that. Except a feeling that I'm a really good actress, and that perhaps I've made myself useful, and brightened someone else's day. But underneath is the sad acknowledgement that if my 'friends' ever knew how severely screwed up I am, they wouldn't like me any more.
So I'm struggling with that right now. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!