My last post got me thinking a little bit about the nature of my relationship with the ex. While I prided myself on us being equals, I'm realizing now that that wasn't true. I was the dominant force in the relationship, especially before I got sick. After I got sick, well, I really needed him to step in and take over some and he just couldn't. He couldn't make decisions on his own, and he couldn't take a proactive role in anything.
A friend of mine, once the divorce got started was telling me how they never really like my husband, that he was like 'a puppy that followed you around everywhere'. That really shocked me, and kind of hurt me, because like I said, I placed a lot of importance on equality.
So now I'm looking at all the relationships around me and totally failing to see anything that matches my idea of what a relationship should be. It seems like in every relationship there's a dominant partner and a submissive one. The dominant one does pretty much whatever they want, and the submissive one tends to conform themselves to be what the dominant person wants them to be.
Does anybody else see this?
A friend of mine, once the divorce got started was telling me how they never really like my husband, that he was like 'a puppy that followed you around everywhere'. That really shocked me, and kind of hurt me, because like I said, I placed a lot of importance on equality.
So now I'm looking at all the relationships around me and totally failing to see anything that matches my idea of what a relationship should be. It seems like in every relationship there's a dominant partner and a submissive one. The dominant one does pretty much whatever they want, and the submissive one tends to conform themselves to be what the dominant person wants them to be.
Does anybody else see this?