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Sigma said:
Some japanese friends of my parents moved from Japan -> UK -> Holland(here) a long time ago.
I met their daughter when I was about 3 years old (and she was 5) and even though she only spoke bits of english/japanese and I dutch we became friends.
Since we couldn't talk for a long time we eventually developed this game where she would point at some object in the environment, let's say a tree, and name it in english, then I would do the same in dutch and we would move on to the next object.
Like that we taught eachother our own language, I think I could watch english TV without subtitles when I was around 9 years old.
Because she lived 3 houses away we were together pretty much every day, we even celebrated our birthdays together because they were only 2 days apart, but this also meant we developed more of a brother/sister relationship rather than friend/friend, which made me deny the feelings I had for her when I grew older.
She moved back to Japan about a year ago, not a day has gone by on which I haven't wondered what would have happened if I accepted those feelings (and maybe, just maybe if she shared them)

That's sweet. You should try to contact her. I doubt she's forgotten you.
 
Way back in highschool, there was this guy that kept bugging me. He'd call attention to me when I just wanted to disappear, and in a way that I thought was antagonistic. Maybe that really was how it was meant. But this one time, he came over and sat next to me, said his usual bit, and I responded with some short, biting, "witty" retort. Then he looked at me and said, 'You know, you're never going to make friends this way.." I kind of balked at this and stammered, "Yeah, well, maybe I don't want friends", and that was that. It's a long time ago now, but I every now and then I kind of wonder what might've happened if I'd been nicer. So it goes, I guess.
 
LonelyInAtl said:
I was talking to a good friend on FB and I don't remember how we got on the subject, but I admitted to her that I wanted to ask her out in HS but was too shy. She replied back that she wished I had and didn't I notice how she always found an excuse to hang around me and stuff like that?

Then in college, I went to get my hair cut at a salon near the Ga Tech campus. This really cute semi-punk girl cut my hair and we were chatting it up big time. When I left, she smiled and said "call me when you're ready to come back or any other thing" as she wrote her name and HOME phone on their business card. ARRRRGH....I was to blind to see that was an obvious invitation.

Hindsight is 20/20. :(

i wish i had the courage to do things like that. writing down my name and phone number to someone that seems really interesting. yeah i see that as an open invitation that she wanted to get to know you more. if you still have her number you can still call her! but that's another problem i have, talking to people on the phone, *gulp, so i shouldn't be the one to judge :(


Idol Minos said:
Sigma said:
Some japanese friends of my parents moved from Japan -> UK -> Holland(here) a long time ago.
I met their daughter when I was about 3 years old (and she was 5) and even though she only spoke bits of english/japanese and I dutch we became friends.
Since we couldn't talk for a long time we eventually developed this game where she would point at some object in the environment, let's say a tree, and name it in english, then I would do the same in dutch and we would move on to the next object.
Like that we taught eachother our own language, I think I could watch english TV without subtitles when I was around 9 years old.
Because she lived 3 houses away we were together pretty much every day, we even celebrated our birthdays together because they were only 2 days apart, but this also meant we developed more of a brother/sister relationship rather than friend/friend, which made me deny the feelings I had for her when I grew older.
She moved back to Japan about a year ago, not a day has gone by on which I haven't wondered what would have happened if I accepted those feelings (and maybe, just maybe if she shared them)

That's sweet. You should try to contact her. I doubt she's forgotten you.

so lucky!!! i wish i had a japanese neighbor(s). there are like 0% where i live. i'd have to drive out of the way, an hour to and hour and half just to go to a town where there "might" be some. your story reminds me of the anime Sword Art Online where a sister (who is actually a cousin) is in love with her brother, but she denies those feelings :D
 
Indeed I have back during my high school days. Only that I was pretty shy and had a bit of social anxiety at the time so I didn't exactly get the chance to strike up the potential relationship with that particular person. But like Sci-Fi mentioned, the past is the past and we can't exactly change it. Thus, the only thing you can do now is to just learn from that and build towards the future.
 

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