Hey everyone
I haven't been on this site for quite a few months as I'd finally got over my ex-girlfriend that brought me to this forum in the first place, a few months ago I was completely fine and actually enjoying life for once. But alas I'm back again with another complicated problem :/
I'll try not to write a book while I'm here.
Anyway, I'm a guy and have had a best-friend who's a girl for about 4-5 years. In those years I had felt something towards her but she always had a b/f whenever I wanted to pursue her. She took the back seat though after starting my relationship with my now ex-g/f.
Since then however in the past few months me and my best friend have became closer by ten fold. We're completely comfortable with eachother and could tell eachother anything....almost. But like the years preceding she has a b/f right now of just over a year.
After spending another whole day with her, I finally asked her if she ever though about an "us". And she replied sometimes but that she was happy right now with her b/f and having me as a best friend. I was gutted about the whole thing but respected what she said...until she started prodding me for answers about the whole thing.
She suddenly started talking to me even more than usual, asking me to go do things with her and to come over to her place all the time and similar stuff. I could only come to the conclusion that she must feel something more towards me than just friendship.
Since then till this present day (it's been a few weeks since i told her how i felt) I've always been telling her how I felt when she's asked and she gets down from me telling her that I'm down.
I'm so confused, i get upset about the whole thing, which gets her upset which just makes me more upset, a vicious cycle of pain. Despite all this though she says she loves both me and her boyfriend "equally" which I've diisagreed with her on multiple times.
Bottom line is I don't know what to do, I could continue feeling like honeysuckle everyday remaining her "surrogate b/f" and emotional safety net, or I could tell her that we need to be apart as I can't cope. I've brought up the 2nd option but she says she "refuses" to let me go It'd be so hard to avoid her, especially since we are both still in our last year of schooling with over half the term still to go
Please give me advice guys
Your a saint if you read all that, truly. Thanks
I haven't been on this site for quite a few months as I'd finally got over my ex-girlfriend that brought me to this forum in the first place, a few months ago I was completely fine and actually enjoying life for once. But alas I'm back again with another complicated problem :/
I'll try not to write a book while I'm here.
Anyway, I'm a guy and have had a best-friend who's a girl for about 4-5 years. In those years I had felt something towards her but she always had a b/f whenever I wanted to pursue her. She took the back seat though after starting my relationship with my now ex-g/f.
Since then however in the past few months me and my best friend have became closer by ten fold. We're completely comfortable with eachother and could tell eachother anything....almost. But like the years preceding she has a b/f right now of just over a year.
After spending another whole day with her, I finally asked her if she ever though about an "us". And she replied sometimes but that she was happy right now with her b/f and having me as a best friend. I was gutted about the whole thing but respected what she said...until she started prodding me for answers about the whole thing.
She suddenly started talking to me even more than usual, asking me to go do things with her and to come over to her place all the time and similar stuff. I could only come to the conclusion that she must feel something more towards me than just friendship.
Since then till this present day (it's been a few weeks since i told her how i felt) I've always been telling her how I felt when she's asked and she gets down from me telling her that I'm down.
I'm so confused, i get upset about the whole thing, which gets her upset which just makes me more upset, a vicious cycle of pain. Despite all this though she says she loves both me and her boyfriend "equally" which I've diisagreed with her on multiple times.
Bottom line is I don't know what to do, I could continue feeling like honeysuckle everyday remaining her "surrogate b/f" and emotional safety net, or I could tell her that we need to be apart as I can't cope. I've brought up the 2nd option but she says she "refuses" to let me go It'd be so hard to avoid her, especially since we are both still in our last year of schooling with over half the term still to go
Please give me advice guys
Your a saint if you read all that, truly. Thanks