Revengineer
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I'm guessing a lot of people have trouble with this... perhaps the way their parents treated them made them bitter towards them in some way, and as a result they never considered themselves as truly "loving" their parents.
I was like that for a while but I've somewhat moved on from that. I still have a somewhat distant relationship with my folks which I feel guilty about at times. Logically I realize that my parents weren't and aren't perfect... and they did the best they could which was to give me the tools to survive in the world. But I don't have much to give back to them and I don't think they're satisfied with how I've turned out. I'm afraid to express my true self around them because I know from experience that they don't approve of that. We're just too different on a fundamental level. Raised in two different cultures, that sort of thing. So I do appreciate them but I keep most details of my life away from them. And I'm sure they want the best for me as well. It's just very... businesslike.
Is that "love"? I don't know. Definitions are a fuzzy thing to think about.
I was like that for a while but I've somewhat moved on from that. I still have a somewhat distant relationship with my folks which I feel guilty about at times. Logically I realize that my parents weren't and aren't perfect... and they did the best they could which was to give me the tools to survive in the world. But I don't have much to give back to them and I don't think they're satisfied with how I've turned out. I'm afraid to express my true self around them because I know from experience that they don't approve of that. We're just too different on a fundamental level. Raised in two different cultures, that sort of thing. So I do appreciate them but I keep most details of my life away from them. And I'm sure they want the best for me as well. It's just very... businesslike.
Is that "love"? I don't know. Definitions are a fuzzy thing to think about.