I am going through a divorce. I am in my early 30s. Apart from the emotional turmoil and stress, loneliness and sexual frustration has been a big problem. I live alone now but meet up with friends a few times a week, and in this internet age I chat online to some people. So loneliness is a problem but not that big a problem as sexual frustration. Both casual sex and masturbation are against my morals but I don't know how to turn off my sexual needs either. I feel I couldn't have casual sex with someone I don't know, and I know from personal experience that masturbation is harmful. My ex was addicted to porn and masturbation and that is the primary reason for the divorce, he preferred to get off to awful kinds of porn rather than have sex with me, he had warped his mind to such an extent that vanilla sex with a real woman was no longer appealing and he couldn't do it. I don't want to get into these fantasies and meaningless sex, but at the same time I am not divorced yet so sex with a real person is not even an option. I also put on a lot of weight due to depression/stress.
Loneliness is a real problem too when I start thinking about it. I have these thoughts about never finding someone to love me or have sex with me and ending up alone and never having kids. This marriage was awful and I feel I don't want to try this institution any more. Even dating scares me. I feel I cannot trust anyone and I don't want to have my heart broken anymore. It is better to be lonely than risk betrayal. All options seem lose-lose. I hope this is a passing phase and I get out of this funk soon.
So if women on this forum have faced these problems during a divorce, please help.
Loneliness is a real problem too when I start thinking about it. I have these thoughts about never finding someone to love me or have sex with me and ending up alone and never having kids. This marriage was awful and I feel I don't want to try this institution any more. Even dating scares me. I feel I cannot trust anyone and I don't want to have my heart broken anymore. It is better to be lonely than risk betrayal. All options seem lose-lose. I hope this is a passing phase and I get out of this funk soon.
So if women on this forum have faced these problems during a divorce, please help.