wannabeXL
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I've been hearing about this "true love" business since I was a little kid, and for the longest time I was led to believe that it exists. Now that I'm slightly older, I think that "being in love" is just another phrase for "being temporarily obsessed with someone to an unhealthy level" or "being temporarily attracted sexually to another person." I've read a long time ago about how "romantic love" eventually transforms into "companionship love" in married couples, and I think this only goes to show that "true love" as many people think about it doesn't exist - and it sure explains why people over the years can't define "love."
I've been told that the reason I still don't know how it's like to be in love is that I "haven't met the right person yet." I think that's a load a crap. I'm perfectly capable of knowing when someone is physically attractive, charming, smart,rich, or has whatever other positive qualities that make them worth going out with. My problem seems to be that I don't let myself turn my liking them as person into what some people call "falling in love." I just don't see why I should let myself "fall in love" when it has made people really stupid and gotten them into trouble. People get married all the time because they're "in love," often forgetting there's a lot more to getting married than, among other things, the wedding.
Lastly, I personally find it more rational to get married with someone you've been friends with for years because you know them - you REALLY, REALLY know them - and you know you can get along with them. And yet my preference seems unpopular as dating your own friends has become a taboo of sorts in the area where I live. I can see where they're coming from, but I disagree.
Anyway. I really should've written this when I had more time to organize my thoughts, but this should do for now. Discuss.
I've been told that the reason I still don't know how it's like to be in love is that I "haven't met the right person yet." I think that's a load a crap. I'm perfectly capable of knowing when someone is physically attractive, charming, smart,
Lastly, I personally find it more rational to get married with someone you've been friends with for years because you know them - you REALLY, REALLY know them - and you know you can get along with them. And yet my preference seems unpopular as dating your own friends has become a taboo of sorts in the area where I live. I can see where they're coming from, but I disagree.
Anyway. I really should've written this when I had more time to organize my thoughts, but this should do for now. Discuss.