redrotary13b
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Long story, I do understand if no one responds or is bored in the middle of it.
I know we all have issues but I just need to vent.
I am an only child with both parents. I recently found out that and discovered that I had been neglected emotionally by my mother. She gave me things I needed but whenever it was report card time, I was in for a lashing due to my lacking grades. Here I am at 25, no degree and not being able to find joy in school. I do regret it. I am currently going to school but it is extremely difficult.
I had a fiancé just a week ago. It was a long distance relationship. I reside in US, and her in Japan. I guess my own final blow came at the day of earthquake. I will explain more on that later.
Like any relationship, we had problems. I visited her parents last summer to ask her for marriage, but with me not being "educated", they had a problem with it. I do undserstand them and they did not say no but they wanted me to finish school first. The issue on that part was that my fiancé is 31, so I felt that I needed to hurry. I was frustrated with school and not being able to see her like a next door neighbor and I took it out on her over the phone constantly. It was my mistake. Far as her being older, I always dated older women, I think the neglect from mother was something I was seeking from my female companion. But even without that factor, I ALWAYS was attracted to older women.
I came back to US with semi-rejection from her parents. I wasn't down and he did visit me again and we were okay. But I never stopped taking out my anger on her. She was patient too, she'd cry and tell me that she's sorry even though nothing was her fault.
March 15th was the day I proposed to her, and one year from that day she called me as usual and told me that I put too much on her and she could not handle me anymore. And I agree with her. I was not finically ready, I was acting like a child, being cruel to her when I had personal issues.
I was on the phone with her during the earthquake. I heard the things fall off, she called for her brother and she told me casually that her brother is here I should be ok. Then I said the stupidest thing I could have at that moment which was, I guess your brother is there for you so you don't need me. Yes, I for some reason was jealous of her brother!! Now in my defense, I truly wanted to be there, the way I expressed it obviously even I cam agree was ridiculously and inhumanely stupid. So I believe that was the final straw.
I apologized after she said she was done and tried to get her back. I was sincere and I grew up real fast in few days. And I was actually just offered work at a very prestigious company (it really matters who you know). But it wasn't enough.
I'm not sitting here feeling sorry for myself, I admit I made the mistakes and I understand the things I did wrong. I was stupid and foolish but I learned many lessons from this ordeal.
The reason I'm writing is because without her I'm so lonely. I miss the emails she sent me every morning asking how I am.... I miss talking to her.
I know some people will say that I deserve this and I would be a fool to disagree with you. But it hurts so much because now I'm actually ready and have learned the lesson.
When she told me that there will be no second chances given (although it is more like 100th) I broke down and wrote suicide letters explaining my situation to people that would be left behind. I don't yet know if I will take my life or not. I made a video of apology and sent it to her. I'm not expecting her to take me back but I thought she at least deserved a real apology.
I was not ready for marriage I guess, but now that I am she's not here. It hurts like hell. I have no one to blame but myself and I just can't take the burden. I just wanted to love someone. Not caring about money long as we had enough. I was ready to give up my family, my life, and my friends if she wished it so. My love is like playdoh. I am willing to give and change my love in any shape or form long as the other person loves me. But that was not the case here. I just want someone to love and talk to.
I know we all have issues but I just need to vent.
I am an only child with both parents. I recently found out that and discovered that I had been neglected emotionally by my mother. She gave me things I needed but whenever it was report card time, I was in for a lashing due to my lacking grades. Here I am at 25, no degree and not being able to find joy in school. I do regret it. I am currently going to school but it is extremely difficult.
I had a fiancé just a week ago. It was a long distance relationship. I reside in US, and her in Japan. I guess my own final blow came at the day of earthquake. I will explain more on that later.
Like any relationship, we had problems. I visited her parents last summer to ask her for marriage, but with me not being "educated", they had a problem with it. I do undserstand them and they did not say no but they wanted me to finish school first. The issue on that part was that my fiancé is 31, so I felt that I needed to hurry. I was frustrated with school and not being able to see her like a next door neighbor and I took it out on her over the phone constantly. It was my mistake. Far as her being older, I always dated older women, I think the neglect from mother was something I was seeking from my female companion. But even without that factor, I ALWAYS was attracted to older women.
I came back to US with semi-rejection from her parents. I wasn't down and he did visit me again and we were okay. But I never stopped taking out my anger on her. She was patient too, she'd cry and tell me that she's sorry even though nothing was her fault.
March 15th was the day I proposed to her, and one year from that day she called me as usual and told me that I put too much on her and she could not handle me anymore. And I agree with her. I was not finically ready, I was acting like a child, being cruel to her when I had personal issues.
I was on the phone with her during the earthquake. I heard the things fall off, she called for her brother and she told me casually that her brother is here I should be ok. Then I said the stupidest thing I could have at that moment which was, I guess your brother is there for you so you don't need me. Yes, I for some reason was jealous of her brother!! Now in my defense, I truly wanted to be there, the way I expressed it obviously even I cam agree was ridiculously and inhumanely stupid. So I believe that was the final straw.
I apologized after she said she was done and tried to get her back. I was sincere and I grew up real fast in few days. And I was actually just offered work at a very prestigious company (it really matters who you know). But it wasn't enough.
I'm not sitting here feeling sorry for myself, I admit I made the mistakes and I understand the things I did wrong. I was stupid and foolish but I learned many lessons from this ordeal.
The reason I'm writing is because without her I'm so lonely. I miss the emails she sent me every morning asking how I am.... I miss talking to her.
I know some people will say that I deserve this and I would be a fool to disagree with you. But it hurts so much because now I'm actually ready and have learned the lesson.
When she told me that there will be no second chances given (although it is more like 100th) I broke down and wrote suicide letters explaining my situation to people that would be left behind. I don't yet know if I will take my life or not. I made a video of apology and sent it to her. I'm not expecting her to take me back but I thought she at least deserved a real apology.
I was not ready for marriage I guess, but now that I am she's not here. It hurts like hell. I have no one to blame but myself and I just can't take the burden. I just wanted to love someone. Not caring about money long as we had enough. I was ready to give up my family, my life, and my friends if she wished it so. My love is like playdoh. I am willing to give and change my love in any shape or form long as the other person loves me. But that was not the case here. I just want someone to love and talk to.