armor4sleepPA said:
I'm glad your situation is improving, Ignored. Stay secure with yourself, and hopefully some of that self confidence will inspire others to have confidence in you. Ha... easier said than done, right? I tell my students this all the time, but on the inside I wonder if it's total bull honeysuckle. I guess there's a point to it, even if my self confidence is limited to certain areas.
Well, some things don't have have that much to do with confidence. For an exaggered, You can be as confident in yourself as you want, but if your appearance is poor enough, I feel, you'll find it extraordinarily difficult to find anyone who'll appreciate you. We're visual, the first impression is of paramount importance, and our visual impression of a person /is/ our first impression. Its one of those foolish things to do, logically, depending your happiness on someone else's choices.
But, well, it happens. I mean, no matter how irrational it is, most guys would much prefer a woman's company and would go to great extents for that. Its just the way that we're wired. And JustLost, I'm glad for your confidence, but Asian males have gotten a consistently bad rap for our appearance. Most of it is just "different is bad," but there's also the lack of height(though fortunately, that's not my issue - I was lucky enough to descend from a noble heritage, and am exceptionally tall for an Asian). But I have had incredible difficulties with girls for that reason - I'm obviously not preferred, and at least one girl tell me, "I'll never date anyone who wasn't white." She retracted it quickly, but its not hard to see where her heart is.
Ah well. Can't depend on others.
Regards,
IO