TheRealCallie
Princess Pink Love
Still me who is rude, I suppose?
ditakelly said:LMAO... perhaps you have met your match this time... You silly woman
ditakelly said:Anyway, in response to the origional question, what she is looking for is a 'partner' or 'life companion' it's entirely normal and achievable, but POF just ain't really the place to find them, I met my long term partners in real life, thing would last between 2 -6 years, sensible stuff no marriage or kids. The people who live like that tend to be educated, independent thinkers or artsy types.
TheRealCallie said:Um, you can do all of that honeysuckle. It's not one camp or the other. I have friends who didn't have kids until they were in their 30's.
Just because you want everyone to fit into your own perceived categories, doesn't mean that's what happens.....
ditakelly said:People do often have kids in their 30's it's true, I never said they didn't. Having children fundamentally changes a person in evey way, and so it should,it's a really important job. But for me the '30 something' mum, ain't gonna have anything in common with the '30 something' career girl, who is doing different things with her life, having a baby literally takes up every second of a woman's waking energy. I know this cos when I worked as a personal trainer I would get many women come to me trying to loose their baby weight, it would kill me making conversation for hour with those women,it was so painfully dull (of course i wouldn't let on that it was) so the point I'm making is it's easier to find your own type of person where conversation can flow freely, and for me that's non-parents.
Melissaur said:ditakelly said:People do often have kids in their 30's it's true, I never said they didn't. Having children fundamentally changes a person in evey way, and so it should,it's a really important job. But for me the '30 something' mum, ain't gonna have anything in common with the '30 something' career girl, who is doing different things with her life, having a baby literally takes up every second of a woman's waking energy. I know this cos when I worked as a personal trainer I would get many women come to me trying to loose their baby weight, it would kill me making conversation for hour with those women,it was so painfully dull (of course i wouldn't let on that it was) so the point I'm making is it's easier to find your own type of person where conversation can flow freely, and for me that's non-parents.
I absolutely agree on a personal level, it is mental torture for me as a childless woman trying to talk to or be friends with a woman who has small children. All they can talk about is their kids and maybe their husband, they have no hobbies or time to go out. Can't invite them to parties unless the children can come too. They only post on Facebook about their children. It's like when a women becomes a mum, she stops being a person. I'm sure there are exceptions to this too, but I haven't met any yet!
It's different with older women whose children are grown adults, I can converse with them fine.
Looking at it from this angle I can see how is would probably be impossible for me to date someone with small children. Maybe if their children are teenagers it would be easier.