Jesse
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You don't have to be hyper aware of your behavior to get someone to like you. In fact, you don't have to get someone to like you at all. Successful social interaction involves really getting to know a person. You don't try to get someone to like you. You see who they are as a person and you will know if you two will naturally get along. You'll find out based on how you both react to the same situations or if you share interests.
People naturally attract to each other or naturally don't. We shouldn't try to get someone to like us based on a conception of what we think we're looking for. We simply need to interact and see what feels right. This goes for all types of relationships. You'll be able to tell who you want to talk to and who you don't. You'll be able to tell who's a great friend or who could be a potential mate. Then, you can accept the natural relationship (romantic or platonic) as it develops, rather than what you try to create it to be.
I feel like this is a huge deal for me. I have been diagnosed with PTSD and one of the aspects of that is hyper-awareness. I feel like I've discovered the cause of my hyper-awareness and the solution.
People naturally attract to each other or naturally don't. We shouldn't try to get someone to like us based on a conception of what we think we're looking for. We simply need to interact and see what feels right. This goes for all types of relationships. You'll be able to tell who you want to talk to and who you don't. You'll be able to tell who's a great friend or who could be a potential mate. Then, you can accept the natural relationship (romantic or platonic) as it develops, rather than what you try to create it to be.
I feel like this is a huge deal for me. I have been diagnosed with PTSD and one of the aspects of that is hyper-awareness. I feel like I've discovered the cause of my hyper-awareness and the solution.