Inspire
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I just don't know what to do... There have been a lot of times where I really don't believe something he has said, and it started out small. Now I'm thinking he's lying to get out of doing things, but I'm not sure. I could really just be acting cold, but I'm getting a little tired of it being consistent. I'll list some examples of what I think he's been lying about.
* Holding an internship at Intel for a week. He claimed to have only have gone into the building twice and said he worked from home. Before I lived with him, he would say he worked overnights and "on call" while I was sleeping and his boss would call him to catch hackers from his laptop. When I spent the night at his place, he said he got "called in" when I was sleeping and had to work in the living room. I am a very light sleeper and wake up to the slightest noise or movement. One time he said he caught a hacker and even caught the guy on webcam. When me and a few of his friend continuously asked him about it, he then later claimed that the "project failed" with his team at Intel (claiming that of the guys there let a virus in and crashed all of the servers) and that all of the interns, including his boss, were fired. I think that was an excuse to quit his lie about interning at Intel, cuz I don't think things work that way there. (I have an ex-boyfriend who legitimately worked there, with a company cell phone, badge, and everything to prove it). My boyfriend did nothing to prove he worked there. No paperwork, no badge, nothing.
*He claims that he has had 3 heart attacks in two years. He's also diabetic (which is true, I take his blood sugar all of the time) but he's only 29. I know it could be possible at his age but he's not exactly fat, either. He's a little overweight, but not huge, just has a bigger build. He said that his heart attacks were due from a "broken heart". I don't know what to think about this.
*He has this continuous bleeding ulcer. I say this is bullcrap because he's been using this excuse to get out of doing things like cleaning, moving things around, etc. he claims he coughs up or pukes blood whenever I'm not around, always warns me that he might have to go to the hospital, and is always scaring me to death because he claims he's really sick but I don't see it!
There are other things I think he has lied about that worry me. Tonight he said that he hasn't told his parents that I lived with him! Then, when I questioned him about it, he then told me he told his Mom, but his Dad didn't know. I told him he changed his story and he said he *thinks* his Mom knows. Why is he keeping the truth away from his parents? Even when his parents asked him on the phone where I moved to (I had just moved in with him) he told then I got my own apartment. He lied to them, too! WHAT? (also, his parents have complete control of his finances and he gets a certain amount f money a week from them, like an allowance. He's 29, for Christ's sake!)
Please help me understand what is going on. I love him but this is a HUGE deal breaker.
Wait. Just now he came through the door and told me he's getting audited for his tax returns. Great. This is a mess. I'm desperate to know what I need to do. I know I am being very cold about this situation and he claims he does not lie but I beg to differ!
Also, a couple if his friends just let him know they think he's been lying to them and cut all connections to him. Surprisingly they did not un-friend me on Facebook or anything, but these two people were supposed to be good friends with my boyfriend and suddenly they ditch him? I mean I feel bad for my boyfriend but something is a little fishy here.
* Holding an internship at Intel for a week. He claimed to have only have gone into the building twice and said he worked from home. Before I lived with him, he would say he worked overnights and "on call" while I was sleeping and his boss would call him to catch hackers from his laptop. When I spent the night at his place, he said he got "called in" when I was sleeping and had to work in the living room. I am a very light sleeper and wake up to the slightest noise or movement. One time he said he caught a hacker and even caught the guy on webcam. When me and a few of his friend continuously asked him about it, he then later claimed that the "project failed" with his team at Intel (claiming that of the guys there let a virus in and crashed all of the servers) and that all of the interns, including his boss, were fired. I think that was an excuse to quit his lie about interning at Intel, cuz I don't think things work that way there. (I have an ex-boyfriend who legitimately worked there, with a company cell phone, badge, and everything to prove it). My boyfriend did nothing to prove he worked there. No paperwork, no badge, nothing.
*He claims that he has had 3 heart attacks in two years. He's also diabetic (which is true, I take his blood sugar all of the time) but he's only 29. I know it could be possible at his age but he's not exactly fat, either. He's a little overweight, but not huge, just has a bigger build. He said that his heart attacks were due from a "broken heart". I don't know what to think about this.
*He has this continuous bleeding ulcer. I say this is bullcrap because he's been using this excuse to get out of doing things like cleaning, moving things around, etc. he claims he coughs up or pukes blood whenever I'm not around, always warns me that he might have to go to the hospital, and is always scaring me to death because he claims he's really sick but I don't see it!
There are other things I think he has lied about that worry me. Tonight he said that he hasn't told his parents that I lived with him! Then, when I questioned him about it, he then told me he told his Mom, but his Dad didn't know. I told him he changed his story and he said he *thinks* his Mom knows. Why is he keeping the truth away from his parents? Even when his parents asked him on the phone where I moved to (I had just moved in with him) he told then I got my own apartment. He lied to them, too! WHAT? (also, his parents have complete control of his finances and he gets a certain amount f money a week from them, like an allowance. He's 29, for Christ's sake!)
Please help me understand what is going on. I love him but this is a HUGE deal breaker.
Wait. Just now he came through the door and told me he's getting audited for his tax returns. Great. This is a mess. I'm desperate to know what I need to do. I know I am being very cold about this situation and he claims he does not lie but I beg to differ!
Also, a couple if his friends just let him know they think he's been lying to them and cut all connections to him. Surprisingly they did not un-friend me on Facebook or anything, but these two people were supposed to be good friends with my boyfriend and suddenly they ditch him? I mean I feel bad for my boyfriend but something is a little fishy here.