rex-craft7
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i hate the thought of having a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend. one of the things that annoys me the most is when my friends start talking along the lines of "getting laid"/"making a move" type of conversations. and strategies to "get the girl">> what, is it like a game or something? (i despise the thought of this)
- when you go on a date, as my friends have pointed out, your supposedly supposed to go to a romance or a horror movie, and the quality of the movie is not an issue. well if it was a good movie then sure, but why would i want to go watch a movie if its a shitty movie?
- your supposed to pay for your date in restaurants? - my friends killed me for this, when on prom, i split the bill>> honestly, im not paying for both for every meal we get>>
- i watched my friend, on a very cold day at nighttime, give his shirt and coat to his girlfriend as we were all walking together. so then he was left with wearing almost nothing while it was freezing outside... why? she had her own goddamn coat>> great, now your freezing>>
- or, as i watched my friend spend a hundred $ on valentines, or, as i watch him pay for buttloads of presents, gifts, food, etc. etc. he always complained to me how he was spending so much on his girlfriend and that he's losing money. yes... so then why are you spending so much? whats the point? why would anyone need a goddamn hundred dollar present every birthday, valentines, and goddamn christmas (we're students)?? in which case i was instantly rebuked with a "you wouldnt understand". no. i clearly dont. and i probably never will>>
i never understood the large amount of money that my friend seems to be losing from the fact that he has a girlfriend. cant you make a meaningful present yourself? i dont understand the time/energy consuming aspect either. yes , two people are in a relationship, but i always believed that at the same time, each has their own lives to lead, own dreams to fulfill, etc. etc. (im not sacrificing my ambitions for any relationship)>> -
i guess you could say im a realist/individualist, am very analytical, skeptical, and generally am not one to follow something/do something unless i think it makes reasonable sense; which, after talking with my friends, appears that it is not a very good combination to go with trying to find a girlfriend. any thoughts? btw im 19, single, only dated once, and with what limited experience and observations ive had, am fairly cynical about this "relationship" process (well, at least the one in highschool and freshman year of college anyways). why? because the people around me make it sound as if its a kind of game, as if its required to have at least been in a relationship/had sex by the time your done with college (as a note, im just saying that this is the general feeling im getting - by no means does this mean that i think everyone, or even the majority, thinks like this). i may sound like i dont want a relationship, but that is not the case. i dont care about looks - i do want to end up with someone, but i believe in having a "middle ground" in all relationships if that makes sense.
or, do i not even have the right to talk about this, since i have no experience? am i too cold? can anyone relate? any input?
- when you go on a date, as my friends have pointed out, your supposedly supposed to go to a romance or a horror movie, and the quality of the movie is not an issue. well if it was a good movie then sure, but why would i want to go watch a movie if its a shitty movie?
- your supposed to pay for your date in restaurants? - my friends killed me for this, when on prom, i split the bill>> honestly, im not paying for both for every meal we get>>
- i watched my friend, on a very cold day at nighttime, give his shirt and coat to his girlfriend as we were all walking together. so then he was left with wearing almost nothing while it was freezing outside... why? she had her own goddamn coat>> great, now your freezing>>
- or, as i watched my friend spend a hundred $ on valentines, or, as i watch him pay for buttloads of presents, gifts, food, etc. etc. he always complained to me how he was spending so much on his girlfriend and that he's losing money. yes... so then why are you spending so much? whats the point? why would anyone need a goddamn hundred dollar present every birthday, valentines, and goddamn christmas (we're students)?? in which case i was instantly rebuked with a "you wouldnt understand". no. i clearly dont. and i probably never will>>
i never understood the large amount of money that my friend seems to be losing from the fact that he has a girlfriend. cant you make a meaningful present yourself? i dont understand the time/energy consuming aspect either. yes , two people are in a relationship, but i always believed that at the same time, each has their own lives to lead, own dreams to fulfill, etc. etc. (im not sacrificing my ambitions for any relationship)>> -
i guess you could say im a realist/individualist, am very analytical, skeptical, and generally am not one to follow something/do something unless i think it makes reasonable sense; which, after talking with my friends, appears that it is not a very good combination to go with trying to find a girlfriend. any thoughts? btw im 19, single, only dated once, and with what limited experience and observations ive had, am fairly cynical about this "relationship" process (well, at least the one in highschool and freshman year of college anyways). why? because the people around me make it sound as if its a kind of game, as if its required to have at least been in a relationship/had sex by the time your done with college (as a note, im just saying that this is the general feeling im getting - by no means does this mean that i think everyone, or even the majority, thinks like this). i may sound like i dont want a relationship, but that is not the case. i dont care about looks - i do want to end up with someone, but i believe in having a "middle ground" in all relationships if that makes sense.
or, do i not even have the right to talk about this, since i have no experience? am i too cold? can anyone relate? any input?