Jesse
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Thank you deirdre for all of your helpful words.
I think you're right. I feel like all those things you are advising me to do I have been doing the past couple years. I never did what my family wanted me to do- go to college. No, the past few years has been all about finding myself and figuring out who I am and what I want to do. I feel like I'm finally at that place, or near that place for the first time. It's been a tough process, but I've found so much healing in the last couple years. I'm finally getting myself on track... and I do think maybe past relationships failed because I wasn't ready.
I truly feel ready for life now... ready to live. I've made my way out of the darkness.
I think you're right. I feel like all those things you are advising me to do I have been doing the past couple years. I never did what my family wanted me to do- go to college. No, the past few years has been all about finding myself and figuring out who I am and what I want to do. I feel like I'm finally at that place, or near that place for the first time. It's been a tough process, but I've found so much healing in the last couple years. I'm finally getting myself on track... and I do think maybe past relationships failed because I wasn't ready.
I truly feel ready for life now... ready to live. I've made my way out of the darkness.
deirdre said:awww jesse, you got a lot of life to live between now and where I am at age 60....don't assume just because you are awkward now means you won't connect with anyone....
heck, I was awkward, never dated either.... no one very saw anything of value in me.... and one day there he was. Yeah, well, didn't work... and ya know what? I think it would have been much better for me in the long run that I remained alone, for you see, sometimes really lonely and damaged people seem to gravitate to each other...and then his demons that are torturing you, become your demons, because now you have deal with his demons and you realize you were just two lonely tortured souls whose demons wound up destroying the both of you.
so..... not very helpful huh? Not probably what you need to hear...but maybe what you do need to hear is just try to find yourself now, while you are young. concentrate on you and who you are. I never did that. I filled my life with school and musicals and plays and competitions and music lessons and racquetball and running and dancing and singing and nine million other stupid activities and didn't concentrate on figuring out just who I really was and just what I really wanted from my life. Ya gotta have a plan. I never realized that til now...I just followed the pre-made plans of my parents and did what was expected from me, never asked myself "Deirdre, just want do YOU really really want to do?"
You can't be with anyone successfully until you got that figured out. You can, like me, get embroiled in that rush of a relationship, but it ulitmately won't work out, just like mine, because you never took the time to know yourself and set your goals and not allowed yourself to get derailed from your own life because of someone elses.
You find your course, set your own agenda, know who you are, and I think everything will fall into place and no one is going to have power over you to keep you from what it is you want to achieve, because when you are on your right and true path, you will only meet those and resonate to those who are also on that same right and true path. That is how you wind up complementing eachother and growing together.... so find yourself NOW. Be aware of what it is you truly want to achieve now....and everything else just falls into line. I really believe this. I wish you much luck and brightest blessings...and really, don't assume the rest of your life will be this empty or unhappy. Once you get on track with where you are going and set your course, I truly believe you will find yourself amid compatible souls who will enhance your life. ((((((((((( hugz))))))))))))
and don't listen to the judgemental nasty people out there who think they know it all...they don't. they have no clue who you are.