I am just curious, but why do you keep a list like that? What purpose does it serve?BadInside said:I keep an updated list on my phone of who will attend.
My parents, bfs parents, bf, and maybe 2 friends on top of that if one of them remembers who I am.
Despicable Me said:I am just curious, but why do you keep a list like that? What purpose does it serve?BadInside said:I keep an updated list on my phone of who will attend.
My parents, bfs parents, bf, and maybe 2 friends on top of that if one of them remembers who I am.
Hardy har har. Funeral humor. Gotta love it.BeyondShy said:That's to see if a very big viewing room is required or just a small one.
I've never really understood the whole 'buying a plot' thing.mickey said:and maybe buying a plot in a cemetery is a bit premature, in my opinion.
Well, for me personally dump the body in the river for all I care. I'm dead, why would I care? It wouldn't really be 'me'.mickey said:Money, honey. Even a coffin alone can cost your survivors $25,000. Having to buy a plot to bury you in would cost them considerably more. Making final arrangements and ensuring the expenses are covered is just being considerate to our loved ones so they don't have to face a huge financial bill when they're mourning you.
mickey said:Money, honey. Even a coffin alone can cost your survivors $25,000. Having to buy a plot to bury you in would cost them considerably more. Making final arrangements and ensuring the expenses are covered is just being considerate to our loved ones so they don't have to face a huge financial bill when they're mourning you.
Sometimes said:@Aisha, I like how you do it. Some cultures run away and hide from death that it comes as a shock to them when it comes round, to themselves, family or people they know.
TheWalkingDead said:I am sort of a Buddhist, and many Buddhist teachers request that their body is put on display so their students can use it to study impermanence! Not all Buddhists believe in reincarnation (the Buddha never taught anything about that, it was kind of a Hindu synergy thing) and I don't really, I see rebirth as the constant creation of meaning from moment to moment rather than coming back as a cat or a frog (though if I came back as my stray cat or the resident slugs it probably wouldn't be too bad an existence!)
TheWalkingDead said:I think awareness of death can either push us to live life to the full, or bring us down. I spent a long time in denial and pain about my mortality, I think a lot of people do, but not being in denial can be liberating rather than morbid, it means when it does come round, you are ready. You are not lying there wishing you'd done things you didn't, because hopefully you were aware you didn't have unlimited time, and did them This is an interesting article:
http://topinfopost.com/2014/05/12/top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed
I am doing well on 3 of them (unless you count the last month) - I need to work on 2 and 4!
Aisha said:Sometimes said:@Aisha, I like how you do it. Some cultures run away and hide from death that it comes as a shock to them when it comes round, to themselves, family or people they know.
Often it's not a cultural thing I think. As humans we will naturally be afraid of what we don't know. But if you're brought up to acknowledge it and to see death as a part of the natural process, whatever your culture or religion may be, I think that eliminates at least some of the fear. Life is for the living but death is a part of life. Most people see it happen to someone else before it happens to themselves.
When someone dies we deal with it quickly as a community and then move on. The mourning period is three days. We're strongly advised not to dwell in sorrow, no matter how close the deceased was. Sorrow prolonged turns into depression and that affects every facet of life. In the end, no matter how you grieve, the dead remain dead.
TheWalkingDead said:I am sort of a Buddhist, and many Buddhist teachers request that their body is put on display so their students can use it to study impermanence! Not all Buddhists believe in reincarnation (the Buddha never taught anything about that, it was kind of a Hindu synergy thing) and I don't really, I see rebirth as the constant creation of meaning from moment to moment rather than coming back as a cat or a frog (though if I came back as my stray cat or the resident slugs it probably wouldn't be too bad an existence!)
I like your concept of reincarnation. Although you're right, it would be a good life to come back as tiddles! Do buddhists study impermanence generally regardless of whether they believe in reincarnation? I thought transmigration was a buddhist concept? By impermanence do you mean the end of physical existence but also the lack of an afterlife? What's your view on the concept of an afterlife? There's no such thing as a soul in buddhism, so what is it that endures in nirvana? I know nirvana can be achieved but isn't the concept of nirvana sort of different for every individual? Intriguing. Time to study Buddhism again, methinks. We lay the body out for viewing for a little while too, so people can pay their respects.
TheWalkingDead said:I think awareness of death can either push us to live life to the full, or bring us down. I spent a long time in denial and pain about my mortality, I think a lot of people do, but not being in denial can be liberating rather than morbid, it means when it does come round, you are ready. You are not lying there wishing you'd done things you didn't, because hopefully you were aware you didn't have unlimited time, and did them This is an interesting article:
http://topinfopost.com/2014/05/12/top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed
I am doing well on 3 of them (unless you count the last month) - I need to work on 2 and 4!
I've seen that article before and wondered which of those I'd have. If I were on my deathbed right now I think mine would be putting things off that I wanted to do and achieve. So probably number one? Better work on that... tomorrow. Good for you if you're managing to live without those regrets!
BadInside said:I keep an updated list on my phone of who will attend.
My parents, bfs parents, bf, and maybe 2 friends on top of that if one of them remembers who I am.
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