I have to rant! I can't stand it when I hear girls say this phrase, "All I want is a guy that is blah blah blah." (Also if you're reading this don't start any pity stuff, this should be amusing).
I'm not sure in terms of which is the most important, but here is what follows the phrase: Caring, Sweet, Honest, Funny, Smart, etc
Please don't think I'm calling every female out on it either! I'm just sharing a rant and a story of irony that I think is funny. Now, for those of you who want to know why... here it is: I attempt to earn everything I have and everything I want in life every day. I act as though if I'm not training I will never get to join special forces, I work two jobs, and I think of the girl I want to be with as something to be earned every day, as well. I can go on, but you get the idea: it's my lifestyle.
I was with a girl a few years back for 3 years. In the last6 months this is what I had done for her. Her 2 best friends talked to me after the relationship ended and were always saying the same **** phrase "i want a guy that does all of that just like you... but i'm sick of guys because they don't do that stuff and they don't care"
Random : Short note in her jacket pocket, telling her i care about her.
Random : Favorite flower on her bed because I left after her and wouldn't be back for 2-3 days.
Her Sad Day: I put a balloon in her car of a cartoon she found funny and wrote on the card attached to it.
Random : Bought a bag of her favorite candy bar minis! Put them all on the coffee table spelling out "I <3 U" and a nice border around the table.
Birthday: Engraved a necklace with what we always used to say to each other on it.
Random : Full massage out on the deck at night.
Anniversary: Her favorite meal. I cooked and had it ready with her favorite scented candles lit. After the meal it was her favorite movie and off to bed.
Day after anniversary I get to my place, expecting her to be there like she said. Instead I find all of my stuff covering the bed, and her stuff gone. No note, no reason, and no closure.
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The 2nd girl, got out of a relationship with a guy that would make her sit on the floor if he wanted to lay on the couch. She had to get her own medicine when she had the flu, he refused to spend any time with her and her family, and he had anger issues. She stayed with him for 2 years. I was speaking with her for a month and then was with her for about 5 months.
Random : Dinner at a nice restaurant, went for a walk at a park late at night and just talked.
Random : She mentions her legs are soar from running yesterday (we worked out together) so without hesitation I massaged her legs.
Random : She loves flowers, I take her to the botanical garden, and afterwards a picnic with her favorite snacks. (One of them takes like 2 hours to make... if that makes any difference)
Random : I lie and tell her I have to take care of something at the bank and she should stay in bed and rest. I come back with IHOP for breakfast in bed. And while I was out i buy candles and hide them. We were going on a road trip and I booked a hotel suite for us for the night instead of just taking turns driving like she thought we'd do.
Random : Wrote in a card that I was thinking of her and that I will be doing just that every day. Put it in her suit case and she found it while unpacking.
Random : She gets a great job offer while on her trip but it means we'll be apart for 2 months and she is feeling guilty. I take a picture of myself, then go back and find one of the two of us. I print them up and put them in an envelope, on the back of the photo of me... "Know that if you're looking at this and wondering if I'm thinking of you, I am. And know that I'll be there waiting for you so we can take another picture together." (She never got this envelope)
Until this point we had been talking a lot about our futures together because we have difficult goals in our lives that we are working toward. We clicked very fast and that was great too. She would tell me she's crazy about me, then ask how certain I am. Then if I can really put the effort into "us." Then, sure enough... the next week she stops talking to me for a couple of days. At least she left with, "it all sounds great... and it is great but I have a lot going on and I don't know how committed I want to be with you."
I suppose she should have been asking herself those things lol
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The third girl, I barely do anything for and I can't get her to leave me if i try. I mean it. I have said the meanest things to her, called her useless, stupid, ignorant, etc. She begs me to stay. It took me 2 months to just get her convinced that I'm not going to come back to her.
Every time I find a girl that is up to my standards it ends the same way. My two best female friends are always a little jealous when I speak to them about my plans and I find it amusing because their husbands don't do that type of stuff. My best guy friend is a great guy too, maybe a little on the jealous side but he does the same type of stuff (hot air balloon rides, candle light dinners, think he even rented a boat one time) and yet gets the same result. I won't go into his life though.
I'm sick of hearing it. Mainly because SOME girls use it as a way of saying "What is wrong with men?" However, I am finding that when they get what they want they realize they want to party until they are 30 or something. Who knows. So now i laugh every time a girl complains about how "all i want is..."
I'm not sure in terms of which is the most important, but here is what follows the phrase: Caring, Sweet, Honest, Funny, Smart, etc
Please don't think I'm calling every female out on it either! I'm just sharing a rant and a story of irony that I think is funny. Now, for those of you who want to know why... here it is: I attempt to earn everything I have and everything I want in life every day. I act as though if I'm not training I will never get to join special forces, I work two jobs, and I think of the girl I want to be with as something to be earned every day, as well. I can go on, but you get the idea: it's my lifestyle.
I was with a girl a few years back for 3 years. In the last6 months this is what I had done for her. Her 2 best friends talked to me after the relationship ended and were always saying the same **** phrase "i want a guy that does all of that just like you... but i'm sick of guys because they don't do that stuff and they don't care"
Random : Short note in her jacket pocket, telling her i care about her.
Random : Favorite flower on her bed because I left after her and wouldn't be back for 2-3 days.
Her Sad Day: I put a balloon in her car of a cartoon she found funny and wrote on the card attached to it.
Random : Bought a bag of her favorite candy bar minis! Put them all on the coffee table spelling out "I <3 U" and a nice border around the table.
Birthday: Engraved a necklace with what we always used to say to each other on it.
Random : Full massage out on the deck at night.
Anniversary: Her favorite meal. I cooked and had it ready with her favorite scented candles lit. After the meal it was her favorite movie and off to bed.
Day after anniversary I get to my place, expecting her to be there like she said. Instead I find all of my stuff covering the bed, and her stuff gone. No note, no reason, and no closure.
-----
The 2nd girl, got out of a relationship with a guy that would make her sit on the floor if he wanted to lay on the couch. She had to get her own medicine when she had the flu, he refused to spend any time with her and her family, and he had anger issues. She stayed with him for 2 years. I was speaking with her for a month and then was with her for about 5 months.
Random : Dinner at a nice restaurant, went for a walk at a park late at night and just talked.
Random : She mentions her legs are soar from running yesterday (we worked out together) so without hesitation I massaged her legs.
Random : She loves flowers, I take her to the botanical garden, and afterwards a picnic with her favorite snacks. (One of them takes like 2 hours to make... if that makes any difference)
Random : I lie and tell her I have to take care of something at the bank and she should stay in bed and rest. I come back with IHOP for breakfast in bed. And while I was out i buy candles and hide them. We were going on a road trip and I booked a hotel suite for us for the night instead of just taking turns driving like she thought we'd do.
Random : Wrote in a card that I was thinking of her and that I will be doing just that every day. Put it in her suit case and she found it while unpacking.
Random : She gets a great job offer while on her trip but it means we'll be apart for 2 months and she is feeling guilty. I take a picture of myself, then go back and find one of the two of us. I print them up and put them in an envelope, on the back of the photo of me... "Know that if you're looking at this and wondering if I'm thinking of you, I am. And know that I'll be there waiting for you so we can take another picture together." (She never got this envelope)
Until this point we had been talking a lot about our futures together because we have difficult goals in our lives that we are working toward. We clicked very fast and that was great too. She would tell me she's crazy about me, then ask how certain I am. Then if I can really put the effort into "us." Then, sure enough... the next week she stops talking to me for a couple of days. At least she left with, "it all sounds great... and it is great but I have a lot going on and I don't know how committed I want to be with you."
I suppose she should have been asking herself those things lol
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The third girl, I barely do anything for and I can't get her to leave me if i try. I mean it. I have said the meanest things to her, called her useless, stupid, ignorant, etc. She begs me to stay. It took me 2 months to just get her convinced that I'm not going to come back to her.
Every time I find a girl that is up to my standards it ends the same way. My two best female friends are always a little jealous when I speak to them about my plans and I find it amusing because their husbands don't do that type of stuff. My best guy friend is a great guy too, maybe a little on the jealous side but he does the same type of stuff (hot air balloon rides, candle light dinners, think he even rented a boat one time) and yet gets the same result. I won't go into his life though.
I'm sick of hearing it. Mainly because SOME girls use it as a way of saying "What is wrong with men?" However, I am finding that when they get what they want they realize they want to party until they are 30 or something. Who knows. So now i laugh every time a girl complains about how "all i want is..."
