sameoldsameold
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I'm not really sure if I am posting this in the right place, but I will give it a go.
So for the past four years, since I finished high school, I have been really confused and undecided about where my life is going to go. It was the expectation in my family that I would attend university, finish and get a job, because of this expectation I never felt like I had the right to decide to do something different. Basically the last four years in a nutshell are: 2008: worked full time in administration to be eligible for some financial assistance in university. 2009: started my uni course. Was still living at home as I had no choice. In the second half of the year I had a mental breakdown, ended up on antidepressents and failed two of my uni classes. I managed to keep all of this information from my parents and had no one to talk to about it. I hated the uni course and felt like I had no escape. 2010: I spent 12 months working part time in retail and trying desperately to get a full time job so that I could move out and really gain my independece. Unfortunately I live in a small town and I was not able to get anymore permanent work. (I guarantee it was not for lack of trying). 2011: I am back doing my original uni course and I am hating it again. The university is small and doesn't have the typical social scene of uni's. The courses are all health based and particularly hard to get into (e.g. dentistry, pharmacy physiotherapy etc), and as such the students are very focused. The reason that I returned to the course was plain and simply pressure from family.
I feel a bit like my life is completely out of my control. I know that realistically once I have finished my uni course I will definitely be able to get a job and will earn very good money. The problems is that I do not ever see myself as continuing with this profession for the rest of my life. At the same time I have become very withdrawn from everyone and everything in my life. I don't talk to my family and actively avoid any type of family gathering. I despise Christmas and Easter because I feel like I am being judged by everyone around me. I have lost all friends and don't have any real connections in my life. I'm lonely, the problem is that I have been this way for nearly 6 years, so I don't really know what to do about it. I'm not a typical 22year old either. I have very little interest in going to a pub to get pissed every weekend. I would love to simply have someone to have a conversation with about uni, about work, about things that are happening in the world. I have very little tolerance for drama and people that thrive by making someone else feel bad.
The feelings of isolation have been happening for a long time. Most people, that I have observed, seem to get more confident, comfortable, intelligent and content as they get older. They feel comfortable expressing themselves and have interest and hobbies. I feel like I have done the opposite. As I have gotten older I have no hobbies, don't want to express myself, I have no confidence is anything that I do any more and as a result everything is suffering. My health is just disgusting while on the antidepressents I gained nearly 15kg (30lbs) and have been so embarrased by my size that I can't face going to a gym because of what people will think. My mind is definitely suffering. My marks at uni are just pathetic, whereas during high school I was the top in my year in all subjects that I took. I know that my mental health is really causing problems in all aspects of my life, and I have no idea how to fix it.
Anyway, that's my story. I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks.
So for the past four years, since I finished high school, I have been really confused and undecided about where my life is going to go. It was the expectation in my family that I would attend university, finish and get a job, because of this expectation I never felt like I had the right to decide to do something different. Basically the last four years in a nutshell are: 2008: worked full time in administration to be eligible for some financial assistance in university. 2009: started my uni course. Was still living at home as I had no choice. In the second half of the year I had a mental breakdown, ended up on antidepressents and failed two of my uni classes. I managed to keep all of this information from my parents and had no one to talk to about it. I hated the uni course and felt like I had no escape. 2010: I spent 12 months working part time in retail and trying desperately to get a full time job so that I could move out and really gain my independece. Unfortunately I live in a small town and I was not able to get anymore permanent work. (I guarantee it was not for lack of trying). 2011: I am back doing my original uni course and I am hating it again. The university is small and doesn't have the typical social scene of uni's. The courses are all health based and particularly hard to get into (e.g. dentistry, pharmacy physiotherapy etc), and as such the students are very focused. The reason that I returned to the course was plain and simply pressure from family.
I feel a bit like my life is completely out of my control. I know that realistically once I have finished my uni course I will definitely be able to get a job and will earn very good money. The problems is that I do not ever see myself as continuing with this profession for the rest of my life. At the same time I have become very withdrawn from everyone and everything in my life. I don't talk to my family and actively avoid any type of family gathering. I despise Christmas and Easter because I feel like I am being judged by everyone around me. I have lost all friends and don't have any real connections in my life. I'm lonely, the problem is that I have been this way for nearly 6 years, so I don't really know what to do about it. I'm not a typical 22year old either. I have very little interest in going to a pub to get pissed every weekend. I would love to simply have someone to have a conversation with about uni, about work, about things that are happening in the world. I have very little tolerance for drama and people that thrive by making someone else feel bad.
The feelings of isolation have been happening for a long time. Most people, that I have observed, seem to get more confident, comfortable, intelligent and content as they get older. They feel comfortable expressing themselves and have interest and hobbies. I feel like I have done the opposite. As I have gotten older I have no hobbies, don't want to express myself, I have no confidence is anything that I do any more and as a result everything is suffering. My health is just disgusting while on the antidepressents I gained nearly 15kg (30lbs) and have been so embarrased by my size that I can't face going to a gym because of what people will think. My mind is definitely suffering. My marks at uni are just pathetic, whereas during high school I was the top in my year in all subjects that I took. I know that my mental health is really causing problems in all aspects of my life, and I have no idea how to fix it.
Anyway, that's my story. I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks.