It might be a little difficult to put this into context, but I'm going to give it my best shot.
I am twenty years old, and I have been a compulsive liar my entire life. I lie to cover myself up. I lie to make myself seem more interesting. Hell, I tell lies as conversation starters. I've rarely - if ever - been caught telling a lie, and I'm rather adept at covering my tracks and using a good alibi.
I am not proud of this. In fact, I hate myself for it.
The problem is, because I've been so liberal with the truth my whole life, I can't seem to trust anyone. What's more - four out of the six relationships I've had throughout my young life have ended with my being cheated on. I don't care much for detail, but you get the point.
and here is my problem:
I am currently in a long-distance relationship. I live in Southern California and she lives in Florida. We plan to meet up in San Francisco in about a year. No matter how many times she says "I love you;" no matter what she says to assure me she'll never cheat, I simply cannot trust her. She goes to local jams and I imagine her falling for the guitarist or something and ending up in bed with him - never to tell me about it. What's more - she has loads of male friends and this picks at me to no end.
This is all alienating me... I'm intensely lonely, and I have no one to rant to.
After my first few failed relationships, I took about a year's worth of therapy. All the advice I got was "not all women are like that" or "you're looking in the wrong places." I know the former is true, but the latter is complete garbage. I just. . . don't know what to think (sorry, I'm rambling - talking to a girl on AIM who is warning me about current girlfriend's track record. How comforting). If anyone has anything to say...
- Kevin
I am twenty years old, and I have been a compulsive liar my entire life. I lie to cover myself up. I lie to make myself seem more interesting. Hell, I tell lies as conversation starters. I've rarely - if ever - been caught telling a lie, and I'm rather adept at covering my tracks and using a good alibi.
I am not proud of this. In fact, I hate myself for it.
The problem is, because I've been so liberal with the truth my whole life, I can't seem to trust anyone. What's more - four out of the six relationships I've had throughout my young life have ended with my being cheated on. I don't care much for detail, but you get the point.
and here is my problem:
I am currently in a long-distance relationship. I live in Southern California and she lives in Florida. We plan to meet up in San Francisco in about a year. No matter how many times she says "I love you;" no matter what she says to assure me she'll never cheat, I simply cannot trust her. She goes to local jams and I imagine her falling for the guitarist or something and ending up in bed with him - never to tell me about it. What's more - she has loads of male friends and this picks at me to no end.
This is all alienating me... I'm intensely lonely, and I have no one to rant to.
After my first few failed relationships, I took about a year's worth of therapy. All the advice I got was "not all women are like that" or "you're looking in the wrong places." I know the former is true, but the latter is complete garbage. I just. . . don't know what to think (sorry, I'm rambling - talking to a girl on AIM who is warning me about current girlfriend's track record. How comforting). If anyone has anything to say...
- Kevin