Never get enough opportunities to meet others

[SourGlow]

I have had reasonable amount of opportunities but I ruin all of them. Like just the other day a guy asked me for directions but I didn’t know how to get there and in the same day a girl asked me for change for $5 and I only had change for $4
Then there are those times when I meet someone and we talk for a while and the next time I see them around campus I wave or say hi and they ignore me or act as if they don’t know me, or maybe I’m just forgettable.
Last week one of my classmates asked me for my number so we could text each other and contact each other so we can hang out, and she hasn’t texted me yet.
I get opportunities and I go out of my comfort zone to meet people but it never leads to anything. Maybe I’m not a likeable person.

 

[jjam]

I get opportunities and I go out of my comfort zone to meet people but it never leads to anything. Maybe I’m not a likeable person.

At least you're trying. I strongly believe it WILL pay off. I rarely step out of my comfort zone to meet people or to establish friendships. The screwed up part about it all is that my comfort zone is defined by inexistent effort. It's blatantly clear to me this has been detrimental.

 

[Psycrow]

That also happens for me, sometimes i meet other people and if i see these people on the street again and waves or say hi, then its like im a waving foolish ghost to them. So i just stop saying hi or greet on people until they greet on me. Not the best solution to socialise but why bother.

But sometimes it happend that i nod when i pass a person i have seen before, so in that way it dosent looks so akward.

 

[jjam]

if i see these people on the street again and waves or say hi, then its like im a waving foolish ghost to them. So i just stop saying hi or greet on people until they greet on me. Not the best solution to socialise but why bother.

I think I know the feeling. This situation is different, but I acted similarly with someone that I know quite a bit beyond "just a familiar face" level, and felt really crappy about it immediately after the opportunity passed and weeks following. I didn't do it to be mean, I did it because I'd been feeling a bit unwelcomed by this person. Nevertheless, I kept battling with the idea that I was dead wrong to not have said hello. I promised myself that I'd never let it happen again unless it was clearly understood that me and the person in question were not on speaking terms anymore.

 

[funkymonkey]

I joined a walking/hiking group but all the members were 60 yrs+...& while I am not against older people, I do prefer the company of people my own age..

I joined a yoga club last week, the people there are I hope more in tune with my 'ways'