No sex experience

[theraab]

I mean....what happens if things get a little crazy and someone falls out of bed

or.. the dog comes in the room and licks your butt in mid-motion.

I don't know if you were kidding about this, but that actually did once happen to me.

By chance, Cracked.com had this article posted this morning:

http://www.cracked.com/blog/the-5-parts-sex-porn-doesnt-prepare-you-for/

And the one thing I would add to this list for all that haven't had sex is that after your first time there is a feeling like, "Wow, that was no big deal." (of course, your partner is probably thinking the same thing, but in a different tone).

 

[Fustar]

So never mind. She is definitely into some other guy.

 

[LonesomeLoner]

I'd always be honest. If I was to find somebody I'd say about my health and sexual experiences.

 

[Midnight Sky]

I think it really depends on the person.

Some people may take offense to it, and some may be honored. If you're religious, most Christians tend to be open to virgins.

But also might want you to wait until after marriage!

I'm christian and I've met one like that. She was one of those extremist though(the one that makes us look bad) and took it as far as not even allowing any kissing, or sleeping together(SLEEP not sex ;p). Obviously, it didn't last long.

 

[ardour]

I don't think experience matters all that much. The idea that it does places too much emphasis on the physical.

 

[Seosa2]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

This. Make sure you do your fair share of erm...."eating" as well, it makes it easier for yourself.

 

[ShybutHi]

I think for someone to judge the person on their sexual experience shows the person is just downright shallow and ignorant. Seriously, what really does it have to do with anything. Why not just be blunt about it, it is really nothing to be ashamed of at all.
Any rational mature person should not be phased in the slightest if you told them that you have no experience. In fact it is kind of good that you could be honest about it as it is a more intimate subject to most.
So, you may not be a bedroom God, but that is only because you have no experience which literally every other human being was at at one point of their life.

 

[EveWasFramed]

I think for someone to judge the person on their sexual experience shows the person is just downright shallow and ignorant.

Well...that's kind of subjective. I think for some, it's a preference. Im sure there some people who don't want to get into bed with someone unless they really know their way around the sheets so to speak. Note, that is not MY personal opinion, but I know a couple of people who prefer it. They aren't bad people - they just know what they want/like.
Now, having said that, to think of someone as "less than" because they don't have much/any sexual experience IS wrong.

 

[ShybutHi]

I think for someone to judge the person on their sexual experience shows the person is just downright shallow and ignorant.

Well...that's kind of subjective. I think for some, it's a preference. Im sure there some people who don't want to get into bed with someone unless they really know their way around the sheets so to speak. Note, that is not MY personal opinion, but I know a couple of people who prefer it. They aren't bad people - they just know what they want/like.
Now, having said that, to think of someone as "less than" because they don't have much/any sexual experience IS wrong.

Yeah I was just saying if someone is going to judge the person negatively I think it is wrong.
Sure if someone just wants you for sex then they might prefer you to be experienced, that is fair enough, but in the end you can't just pick and choose like that... ofc unless you specifically go and look for someone who you know for a fact is experienced. If you really just wanted to get into bed with someone who is experienced then you are going to have to be blunt and ask them about it.

 

[Edward W]

Sex is fun, or should be. Let's face it at some point everyone had no experience.

So, just relax, have fun, and focus on mkaing sure the other person has a great time. Don't just barge in, so to speak, take your time, explore and touch the other person gently, pay attention, what takes their breath away, makes them gasp.

There is so much more to sex than the the main course, it is a full dinner party with numerous possible servings and appetisers, so many ways to give pleasure. And if your partner feels the same way you'll both have a great time. So great in fact that very soon you will have much, much more experience!

Have fun, enjoy yourself!

 

[Lowlander]

I haven't got any sexual experience myself, and I'm 19. People sometimes consider that weird, or think I should have experience by now. Truth is, in my opinion at least, it does not matter whether or not you have "experience" at a certain age.

About partners:

It all depends on the person. However, if a person truly likes you, they won't take offense, should you tell them that it's your first time. Think about it, if your partner likes you before you get to that certain point, then why would she drop you after, even though it may be your first time? Ofcourse everyone is different but I think you should just keep your head cool, and have a good time. Even thought I understand your "dilemma".[/i]

 

[Solivagant]

Don't just barge in, so to speak, take your time, explore and touch the other person gently, pay attention, what takes their breath away, makes them gasp.

^ Good advice. "Barging in" is the #1 complaint I hear from my female friends, whether the guy was a virgin or not.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Not having the ability to even pretend to fake it makes me uncomfortable.

I probably will never have sex. It's not worth the hassle.

 

[Seosa2]

In all honesty, what I've posted on this thread is only "advice" I've been given.

LOL...

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

This. Make sure you do your fair share of erm...."eating" as well, it makes it easier for yourself.

I'm actually on a diet...

*ducks*

No, that turns me on. Of course, she would have to reciprocate.

 

[Seosa2]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

This. Make sure you do your fair share of erm...."eating" as well, it makes it easier for yourself.

I'm actually on a diet...

*ducks*

No, that turns me on. Of course, she would have to reciprocate.

Brilliant