No sex experience

[Fustar]

I haven't let it slow me down, I try to date when I feel I have time, or really like someone. Right now I feel I don't date because I don't have any sexual experience. Maybe I think to much, but I don't want to have to tell a woman that I have never had sex, especially if they have had plenty. Right now I may be facing that moment, if things don't crash and burn real quick like they normally do. Does anyone have any advice if the relationship makes it to the bedroom?

 

[Alienated]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

 

[9006]

I haven't let it slow me down, I try to date when I feel I have time, or really like someone. Right now I feel I don't date because I don't have any sexual experience. Maybe I think to much, but I don't want to have to tell a woman that I have never had sex, especially if they have had plenty. Right now I may be facing that moment, if things don't crash and burn real quick like they normally do. Does anyone have any advice if the relationship makes it to the bedroom?

It's up to you if you do, but you don't have to tell someone you've never had sex before. If it's something that just happens try to go with the flow and enjoy yourself, try not to worry about performance or anything like that since this type of thing seems to come naturally.

 

[Tiina63]

I would say to tell the woman. A kind and decent woman would think nothing of it. If she is experienced, she would be able to help you anyway.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Don't tell her. It would be a mistake.

 

[TheWalkingDead]

I told the first girl I did anything sexual with and she said it was an honour for her. I was in my 20s then

You can hide it and pretend to be some experienced stud and make a fool of yourself, or you can tell her and she can help you through it if she's a person worth giving your virginity to.

I disagree with masturbating beforehand, why try to dull the sensations of something that should be an intimate and pleasurable activity just to impress someone? Bit like eating a big meal just before you dine out so you don't appear greedy and end up unable to eat all the great food on offer.

What's worked for me in the past is agreeing to a quick release with her if that's what's going to happen anyway, you might as well enjoy that, then there are so many other aspects to sex than penetration. I occasionally had problems with my last partner, rather than getting upset about it I gave her pleasure in other ways, if you learn to use your fingers and tongue you will probably not get too many complaints from most women This can also really help take the pressure off any ideas of penetrative performance.

The biggest sexual organ is the brain, I think a lot of people get far to wrapped up in the shoulds and shouldn'ts of sex, it's supposed to be fun for both people, not an exam or performance test.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I think it really depends on the person.

Some people may take offense to it, and some may be honored. If you're religious, most Christians tend to be open to virgins.

 

[TheWalkingDead]

I think it really depends on the person.

Some people may take offense to it, and some may be honored. If you're religious, most Christians tend to be open to virgins.

But also might want you to wait until after marriage!

I think it's too much to wait until marriage, but I think there is something to be said for losing your virginity with someone you at least know a little and can trust. If it goes pear shaped, you can have a chat and a cuddle before trying again and learn to relax with each other's bodies and preferences.

I also know that isn't always possible and sometimes the opportunity just comes along and you just have to find your own way through it.

 

[Walley]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

hmmm, where have I heard that before..
there's something about Mary!
didn't work out so well for Ben Stiller though, be careful with that thing!

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

hmmm, where have I heard that before..
there's something about Mary!
didn't work out so well for Ben Stiller though, be careful with that thing!

That scene is hilarious!

 

[EveWasFramed]

Im odd I guess. I think sex should be FUN.
I mean c'mon...the potential sounds, sights, smells and snafus....you kind of have to be a little lighthearted about it.
I mean....what happens if things get a little crazy and someone falls out of bed (and isn't hurt)? What are you going to do - laugh about the absurdity of it or freak out and stop having sex? lol

EDIT: And for the OP - she's going to KNOW you're inexperienced. You may not need to come right out and say, I"m a virgin" but at least give her some kind of warning....like maybe, "I don't have much experience with this." That will give her the opportunity to ask you about it (if she actually cares).

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I agree with Eve. It's really not that big of a deal.

 

[Walley]

I mean....what happens if things get a little crazy and someone falls out of bed

or.. the dog comes in the room and licks your butt in mid-motion.

 

[Peaches]

Masturbate about a hour before, your first time can cause premature firing. If you take some of the pressure off it helps make it last longer. It will help with the anxiety too.

hmmm, where have I heard that before..
there's something about Mary!
didn't work out so well for Ben Stiller though, be careful with that thing!

ahah, I love that scene

 

[EveWasFramed]

I mean....what happens if things get a little crazy and someone falls out of bed

or.. the dog comes in the room and licks your butt in mid-motion.

LMAO!!! Yes, or something of that.... nature.

 

[TheWalkingDead]

I mean....what happens if things get a little crazy and someone falls out of bed

or.. the dog comes in the room and licks your butt in mid-motion.

LMAO!!! Yes, or something of that.... nature.

Or you see a horror-stricken look on your partner's face, you turn round and the man who cleans the windows has also stopped mid motion with his window cleaning gear and is staring in at you :club:

After that you ALWAYS close the curtains

 

[EveWasFramed]

Or you see a horror-stricken look on your partner's face, you turn round and the man who cleans the windows has also stopped mid motion with his window cleaning gear and is staring in at you :club:

After that you ALWAYS close the curtains

*chuckles*

 

[Punisher]

Tell her. I told my ex when we first met, and it made her want me more.

 

[aspalas]

I wouldn't think about it that much, but I'd definitely tell her. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of in my opinion.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

It really isn't, even in your 30's or 40's. It just means you haven't had sex yet.

What is more important is love. Even porn stars can't seem to find love. I read once that most porn stars are the loneliness people in the world; they have exceeding difficult times getting sex IN a relationship, much less a solid relationship. Although I suppose they get paid well.