h3donist
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Would you go dancing alone?
I do - all the time. I love electronic music (house, trance, garage etc) but I don't have anyone to go with, so rather than miss out, I go on my own but a man dancing on his own really stands out in a club. I go to gay clubs where I find people a lot more accepting and tolerant of single guys but I still get people mocking me - aping my (admittedly poor) dance moves or pointing me out to their friends.
I go for the music - nothing more. To me there's nothing more powerful than feeling the bassline in your ribcage, the beats lifting your feet off the floor and being surrounded by people all lost in the same moment of euphoria. But the feeling of isolation when sitting in the bar alone having a rest, surrounded by hundreds of other clubbers all laughing and having fun with their friends is pretty stark.
My friends say "ignore them - just have fun" which I try to do but I do struggle to shake the feeling that I look utterly ridiculous, dancing away on my own while groups of people look on with amusement or pity.
Now I'm separated from my wife who used to cringe at me dancing and would expect me in at a certain time (usually just as the clubs were getting busy) I'm free to do it more often and I will as long as I have the stamina to jump up and down all night. This weekend I went clubbing at 11pm and finished at 5am - it was such a lovely morning I bought a hot chocolate and sat watching the sunrise. My legs are still aching and ears are ringing though
So I was wondering who here would go dancing alone - not necessarily to meet anyone, just because you love the music and would prefer to be there rather than missing out at home?
I do - all the time. I love electronic music (house, trance, garage etc) but I don't have anyone to go with, so rather than miss out, I go on my own but a man dancing on his own really stands out in a club. I go to gay clubs where I find people a lot more accepting and tolerant of single guys but I still get people mocking me - aping my (admittedly poor) dance moves or pointing me out to their friends.
I go for the music - nothing more. To me there's nothing more powerful than feeling the bassline in your ribcage, the beats lifting your feet off the floor and being surrounded by people all lost in the same moment of euphoria. But the feeling of isolation when sitting in the bar alone having a rest, surrounded by hundreds of other clubbers all laughing and having fun with their friends is pretty stark.
My friends say "ignore them - just have fun" which I try to do but I do struggle to shake the feeling that I look utterly ridiculous, dancing away on my own while groups of people look on with amusement or pity.
Now I'm separated from my wife who used to cringe at me dancing and would expect me in at a certain time (usually just as the clubs were getting busy) I'm free to do it more often and I will as long as I have the stamina to jump up and down all night. This weekend I went clubbing at 11pm and finished at 5am - it was such a lovely morning I bought a hot chocolate and sat watching the sunrise. My legs are still aching and ears are ringing though
So I was wondering who here would go dancing alone - not necessarily to meet anyone, just because you love the music and would prefer to be there rather than missing out at home?