Papabear
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Sooo.... kind of an awkward/strange situation for me. I'm not entirely sure what position to be in.
I've been friends with a guy and a girl since before they've known each other... they are married now.
I've been attracted to the girl since before they knew each other, but have never pursued it in any fashion. The guy is one of my best friends.
Now, they've been fighting for the last several months over the stupidest things. He's cheated on her a few times (which she knows about) and is constantly wanting to chase other women, or cause other problems. He's basically being a complete and total piece of honeysuckle.
Normally I would just mind my own business, but these are two good friends of mine, he's REALLY hurting her, and they keep pulling me into the middle of it.
He even went so far as to freak out because me and another guy hung out with her (which is 100% completely normal) at their house, while he went out drinking and chasing other women. (He was supposed to be hanging out with us).
I dont just want to walk away, these people are good friends of mine, but I'm worried about giving advice because I am admittedly attracted to the girl, I question whether or not it would be biased. I dont think that I am being biased, but what if I was? It wouldnt be fair to him if I was biasing. (as he is my friend, for at least a while anyways... he's effing that up quick). But I really feel like this situation is messed up, and i really really...REALLY... hate the way that he's treating her.
To add, i have no desire, despite my attraction, to pursue a relationship with the girl. There are too many things wrong or messed up with that scenario, buuut... I am still very attracted to her (and I dont just mean physically)
I'm just wondering what peoples advice or opinions are on this situation.
I've been friends with a guy and a girl since before they've known each other... they are married now.
I've been attracted to the girl since before they knew each other, but have never pursued it in any fashion. The guy is one of my best friends.
Now, they've been fighting for the last several months over the stupidest things. He's cheated on her a few times (which she knows about) and is constantly wanting to chase other women, or cause other problems. He's basically being a complete and total piece of honeysuckle.
Normally I would just mind my own business, but these are two good friends of mine, he's REALLY hurting her, and they keep pulling me into the middle of it.
He even went so far as to freak out because me and another guy hung out with her (which is 100% completely normal) at their house, while he went out drinking and chasing other women. (He was supposed to be hanging out with us).
I dont just want to walk away, these people are good friends of mine, but I'm worried about giving advice because I am admittedly attracted to the girl, I question whether or not it would be biased. I dont think that I am being biased, but what if I was? It wouldnt be fair to him if I was biasing. (as he is my friend, for at least a while anyways... he's effing that up quick). But I really feel like this situation is messed up, and i really really...REALLY... hate the way that he's treating her.
To add, i have no desire, despite my attraction, to pursue a relationship with the girl. There are too many things wrong or messed up with that scenario, buuut... I am still very attracted to her (and I dont just mean physically)
I'm just wondering what peoples advice or opinions are on this situation.