IambicBlonde
Well-known member
I'm guilty of doing what I'm about to describe: reading someone's post, being moved by how articulate it was or how heartfelt it seemed, then in an attempt to express that, reply with a bunch of platitudes that really only serve as a soapbox of my thoughts to make me feel better; despite my intentions to be helpful to the poster. So my question to you all is: has anyone ever posted a question to the forum and read a response that actually helped them? I'm sure there are. But can anyone specifically relate an experience.
I realize one of the purposes of this forum is as a sounding board for us all to take comfort that we're not alone. But, I don't know, I just roll my eyes when people say things like, "believe in yourself" or "love yourself". As if the person is going to read that, say those things to themself and voila! Problem solved! I know people are trying to help, but you have no idea (or maybe you do) how frustrating it is trying to articulate one's problem then only get back a platitude that is in no way specific or helpful, and usually comes off as condescending.
My favorite though? Some of the introductions where people say hello and lay out their painful stories, then only get back a, "hello! welcome to the forum" with a stupid smiley face, lol. Seriously?
I realize one of the purposes of this forum is as a sounding board for us all to take comfort that we're not alone. But, I don't know, I just roll my eyes when people say things like, "believe in yourself" or "love yourself". As if the person is going to read that, say those things to themself and voila! Problem solved! I know people are trying to help, but you have no idea (or maybe you do) how frustrating it is trying to articulate one's problem then only get back a platitude that is in no way specific or helpful, and usually comes off as condescending.
My favorite though? Some of the introductions where people say hello and lay out their painful stories, then only get back a, "hello! welcome to the forum" with a stupid smiley face, lol. Seriously?