theSupporter
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I want to ask women, when you are in a relationship with a guy, say it is new, do you like to express affection to the guy, or do you prefer to let him initiate? Do you go for kisses and passionate embraces? How often? Do you prefer to let the guy just initiate sex or do you?
I was in a relationship for 6 years and hardly every got this. She wanted to be safe in my arms and cuddled, declared her love for me profusely, but she hardly ever would just come up to me with some raw passionate desire for me. I know guys aren't that that great to look at compared to women. I love looking at my woman, caressing and everything. To do that to a guy I guess is harder for women? In my case, I was told there was emotional walls in the way.
I'm dating again now and the same issue is happening with this woman. It was super hot the first couple weeks, now she doesn't pull me into the room anymore for some smoochin. We use to never get through a movie, and now she rather have me watch the movie. And it ain't a smothering thing, we go days without sex so when we're together it's hard not to want her.
I am pretty sweet and nice and I really spoil the women I care about, and I love affection as much as I can. I don't know if I'm putting out a "too sweet" vibe and these women just are not feeling it for me, or if it is their issues with intimacy, like stress, or emotional walls (which is what they claim usually). However, I will say, I'm sweet and nice in general, but when it comes to physical intimacy I am very outgoing and totally opposite my normal sweet quiet guy exterior. Also, from a purely physical standpoint, she is extremely satisfied in that department (several times usually ).
I don't have a lot of relationship experience. I just really am feeling a need to want to express my affections to my woman and want the same in return and I'm just not getting it.
I help clean, I help do stuff around the house, I buy gifts, flowers, etc... all stuff I like to do for love and cuz I care. So I am not being told I'm not doing enough or being a good partner.
I just wish I could be attacked or feel desired once in awhile, and I don't really understand why I haven't gotten that. I just feel like a tool and just waiting like a panting dog most of the time. And I'm not an everyday guy. Just throw me a friggen bone every few days or so! Maybe my brain is too simple when it comes to that and women are more moody?
Are women just not like this with men, so I'm just expecting too much?
I was in a relationship for 6 years and hardly every got this. She wanted to be safe in my arms and cuddled, declared her love for me profusely, but she hardly ever would just come up to me with some raw passionate desire for me. I know guys aren't that that great to look at compared to women. I love looking at my woman, caressing and everything. To do that to a guy I guess is harder for women? In my case, I was told there was emotional walls in the way.
I'm dating again now and the same issue is happening with this woman. It was super hot the first couple weeks, now she doesn't pull me into the room anymore for some smoochin. We use to never get through a movie, and now she rather have me watch the movie. And it ain't a smothering thing, we go days without sex so when we're together it's hard not to want her.
I am pretty sweet and nice and I really spoil the women I care about, and I love affection as much as I can. I don't know if I'm putting out a "too sweet" vibe and these women just are not feeling it for me, or if it is their issues with intimacy, like stress, or emotional walls (which is what they claim usually). However, I will say, I'm sweet and nice in general, but when it comes to physical intimacy I am very outgoing and totally opposite my normal sweet quiet guy exterior. Also, from a purely physical standpoint, she is extremely satisfied in that department (several times usually ).
I don't have a lot of relationship experience. I just really am feeling a need to want to express my affections to my woman and want the same in return and I'm just not getting it.
I help clean, I help do stuff around the house, I buy gifts, flowers, etc... all stuff I like to do for love and cuz I care. So I am not being told I'm not doing enough or being a good partner.
I just wish I could be attacked or feel desired once in awhile, and I don't really understand why I haven't gotten that. I just feel like a tool and just waiting like a panting dog most of the time. And I'm not an everyday guy. Just throw me a friggen bone every few days or so! Maybe my brain is too simple when it comes to that and women are more moody?
Are women just not like this with men, so I'm just expecting too much?