Questions for the Women

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

"Gimme a smile, baby" sounds like something from a bad porn film. You know, right before they get down to business....

 

[Sarah_Lbnz]

"Gimme a smile, baby" sounds like something from a bad porn film. You know, right before they get down to business....

Ah, this is another reason why porn has ruined hetero cis male/female relations! They're actually think this is going to happen when they say this to me, right on the street. No wonder why they get so pissed at me when I ignore them. Here they thought they were gonna get some rumpy pumpy, the poor dears.

 

[MissGuided]

So, "gimme a smile, baby" would be a good icebreaker?

Oh dear Lord, please don't say that to a random woman. That would be what I imagine Buffalo Bill would utter right before he says, 'It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again'.

"You know, you have a beautiful smile." would win much more praise, in my opinion.

And, I'm with Nilla - I have never had an aversion to chatting up a stranger...as a general rule. Obviously, there are quick criteria that I gauge before turning a 'Some weather we're having, huh?' passing greeting into a conversation, e.g., my schedule, my initial comfort level with that person, the type conversation starter offered, etc.

 

[ardour]

So, "gimme a smile, baby" would be a good icebreaker?

Oh dear Lord, please don't say that to a random woman. That would be what I imagine Buffalo Bill would utter right before he says, 'It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again'.

"You know, you have a beautiful smile." would win much more praise, in my opinion.

I was trying to be funny. It's a Borat reference, from when he interviews 'feminists'... nevermind.

Though I think "You know, you have a beautiful smile." to a random person might actually get a similar response..

 

[murmi97]

I was trying to be funny. It's a Borat reference, from when he interviews 'feminists'... nevermind.

Though I think "You know, you have a beautiful smile." to a random person might actually get a similar response.

Right, because of possible self-consciousness. Sometimes a polite "hi" and not being too awesome that even you know it are all you can do.

 

[MissGuided]

I was trying to be funny. It's a Borat reference, from when he interviews 'feminists'... nevermind.

Though I think "You know, you have a beautiful smile." to a random person might actually get a similar response..

Oh, ok. I never saw, 'Borat'....on purpose.

And, the smile intro has always gotten a smile and a chat in return from me. But, whatever you're comfortable with.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

So, "gimme a smile, baby" would be a good icebreaker?

Oh dear Lord, please don't say that to a random woman. That would be what I imagine Buffalo Bill would utter right before he says, 'It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again'.

"You know, you have a beautiful smile." would win much more praise, in my opinion.

And, I'm with Nilla - I have never had an aversion to chatting up a stranger...as a general rule. Obviously, there are quick criteria that I gauge before turning a 'Some weather we're having, huh?' passing greeting into a conversation, e.g., my schedule, my initial comfort level with that person, the type conversation starter offered, etc.

How about "Gimme a break, baby?" Then when she hits you for saying a stupid pickup line, it'll be justified.

 

[ardour]

we have "don't worry love, it might never happen!" if random woman looks anxious (not that I'd say it..)

Typically NZ women don't respond, because you know, it's really patronising...

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Women don't look anxious when I say hello to them. They just ignore me, or treat me as a friend (which is worse.)

 

[EveWasFramed]

Women don't look anxious when I say hello to them. They just ignore me, or treat me as a friend (which is worse.)

So you'd rather be ignored than having a female as a friend?
Dude. That's kinda messed up.
Isn't that kind of like saying.... you won't be my gf so buzz off?

 

[Cavey]

I don't see what's so bad with a woman thinking of you as a friend. To be quite honest, I think I'd rather have a woman as a friend only. I share a lot of things in common with women and I miss female company, but everything is so much easier when there is no physical attraction or when you at least both know where the boundaries are.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

You misunderstand me.

I have plenty of friends. I want a girlfriend.

 

[EveWasFramed]

You misunderstand me.

I have plenty of friends. I want a girlfriend.

Yes, which supports what I said about it sending the message to a female that if she doesn't wanna be your gf, she can buzz off.
That's one of the best ways I know of to make yourself look like a jerk to a woman (from a woman's point of view).

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

You're misunderstanding me, again. Please read what I wrote.

Most of my friends are female. I have tons of friends. I don't need another one.

When I approach a girl, who I find attractive, it's kind of insulting that I get the "big brother" speech. I just want to be recognized like a sexual MAN, like any other man would. I'm tired of being the guy friend.

 

[EveWasFramed]

You're misunderstanding me, again. Please read what I wrote.

Most of my friends are female. I have tons of friends. I don't need another one.

When I approach a girl, who I find attractive, it's kind of insulting that I get the "big brother" speech. I just want to be recognized like a sexual MAN, like any other man would. I'm tired of being the guy friend.

LOL, Im not "misunderstanding" anything. YOU go read what you wrote.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

We're saying two different things.

I am saying that I have lots of friends, and I like to make new friends, but I want a girlfriend...and every single girl that I want to be in a relationship with turns out to just want to just be friends, and doesn't find me sexually attractive.

You are saying that I am saying that I tell women to buzz off, rather than be friends with them, since they don't want to be my girlfriend. If that were the case, I would not have a million friends.

You just blew your own logic.

 

[EveWasFramed]

We're saying two different things.
You just blew your own logic.

They just ignore me, or treat me as a friend (which is worse.)

I have plenty of friends. I want a girlfriend.

Most of my friends are female. I have tons of friends. I don't need another one

I'm tired of being the guy friend.

When I approach a girl, who I find attractive, it's kind of insulting that I get the "big brother" speech.

I want a girlfriend...and every single girl that I want to be in a relationship with turns out to just want to just be friends

Nope. My thoughts are perfectly logical. Read your own text up there.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Whatever. You win.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Whatever. You win.

There's nothing to win. Just trying to get across to you, how you come across to females at times.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I made a general comment, and you turned it into a debate. I really don't have time to debate this silly stuff with you.