SofiasMami said:
HoodedMonk said:
SofiasMami said:
Frankly, I'm concerned about you. I don't know if you're clinically depressed but it's possible you are - in which case you must seek out help! Please do, if only to get me off your back.
-Teresa
I've been self medicating with caffeine lately, and I didn't drink any today thinking that laying off of it would help stabilize me some. I seem to feel better than I did. That and things are (slowly) getting worked on.
Going to try to go to bed earlier tonight as well.
I'm going to put my mom hat on here and ask if you got to bed at a decent time?
A full night of restful sleep can bring clarity and calm.
-Teresa
Yeah. I did.
11pm. Much better than 2am. I was sitting up thinking and thinking and worrying….and feeling like honeysuckle.
Still felt down today but am trying to see it for the withdrawal symptoms it may be.
Still in the process of accepting that nobody in real life cares how I feel in terms of depression.
TheWalkingDead said:
Caffeine may not help, it will stimulate urges to harm.
I self harmed periodically in my teens and 20s. It was a physical expression of sheer frustration and emotional anguish, I still have scars on my leg from when I was drunk and almost trying to cut my leg off I guess. I was just trying to express how much emotional pain I felt. I was bleeding for days, it was horrible, I had to fix it myself with this liquid plaster gunk I got from the pharmacy. I also have scars on my abdomen from when I slashed myself in front of my parents. I wanted them to know how much I was hurting and yelling just didn't get it through. I wanted them to know I was hurting, not just angry - of course it just upset them. I also once smashed an ashtray over my head and could have really hurt myself. But I didn't want to hurt myself, I just wanted to stop hurting. Self harm is paradoxical, the harm is actually a way of reducing or managing emotional harm. I wish yo could find a psychologist who would go into the mud with you and figure out your pain and not just tell you to distract yourself.
I hope this helps you to know that you're understood.
I haven't self harmed for years. I took up running, which helps, I think exercise can really help - if I run into my rage and hurt, all I do is elevate my heart rate and while it hurts and feels uncomfortable, it also does me good at the same time and all I have to deal with is increased health and fitness, and not more scars!
Adding my hug for you!
You know, I had no idea so many people on ALL self-harmed. Guess it's something people do but don't talk about.
Your parents sound incompetent (i'm sorry if this upsets you). Any good parent would have taken their child to see a psychologist or gotten them help. From what you describe they did neither. You only upset their little perfect world.
I think the caffeine was wearing out my adrenal glands and making me more emotional. I really do have to be careful with the substances I ingest into my body. I seem to be sensitive to everything.
May I ask what relationship you have with your scars now that you've stopped self-harming? How do you feel about them? That leg one sounded pretty bad. :s This was in the era before they had the powder you could pour into wounds to clot it up. I feel bad for you. :/ That must have been terrifying. And let me guess, you had to go through it alone, didn't you?
Did you find a psychologist that helped you?
(hugs)