hey all,
I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar position as me, and if so, what did they do about it if anything..
So, Im 20, Ive never really been that popular or fit in with people my age. I dont exactly know what the reason is though! In high school i was pretty big, so im guessing that made me the undesirable person to be seen with, but now im nothing like i used to be but have the same problems. I have like one good friend, just so turns out im in a relationship with them. Thats it. Ive been at college 4 years-never really made friends. Those i did get along with just stopped talking to me for an unknown reason. Im pretty introverted, but i do make an effort to speak to people, but it goes nowhere, its like im thinking im saying one thing, but im saying something different out loud.
Ive tried makingfriends online-dont really work too well either. Im more nervous about everything going wrong online than in person. I used to have a few long term pen pals but all of them ended either when they stopped replying or when they said that i was mean to them or something..i never meant to be if i did! I didnt see it! It happens a bit- people go in moods and i dont have a clue what ive done to cause it. Ive tried joining clubs, volunteering, speaking to strangers in the library, but it either doesnt work or i speak a bit longer then they stop talking.
Anyway, im starting uni in september, il be living in halls. My main worry is that i wont make any friends- i dont drink, smoke, i hate clubs and bars-i hate crowds, i dont like going on hights out or anything like that. I literally will be messed if i dont fit in there. I just dont know what to do though. I have now finished college-so i have nothing to do until september and i only work one day a week (works a bit slow-an no friends there-its just me and 1 30yr old woman-we have a laugh but thats it) so im going to be screwed and go insane-dont feel like spending the next few months in my room!
Has anyone had a similar experience? is there anything you did to break out of it?
btw soz for the essay
I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar position as me, and if so, what did they do about it if anything..
So, Im 20, Ive never really been that popular or fit in with people my age. I dont exactly know what the reason is though! In high school i was pretty big, so im guessing that made me the undesirable person to be seen with, but now im nothing like i used to be but have the same problems. I have like one good friend, just so turns out im in a relationship with them. Thats it. Ive been at college 4 years-never really made friends. Those i did get along with just stopped talking to me for an unknown reason. Im pretty introverted, but i do make an effort to speak to people, but it goes nowhere, its like im thinking im saying one thing, but im saying something different out loud.
Ive tried makingfriends online-dont really work too well either. Im more nervous about everything going wrong online than in person. I used to have a few long term pen pals but all of them ended either when they stopped replying or when they said that i was mean to them or something..i never meant to be if i did! I didnt see it! It happens a bit- people go in moods and i dont have a clue what ive done to cause it. Ive tried joining clubs, volunteering, speaking to strangers in the library, but it either doesnt work or i speak a bit longer then they stop talking.
Anyway, im starting uni in september, il be living in halls. My main worry is that i wont make any friends- i dont drink, smoke, i hate clubs and bars-i hate crowds, i dont like going on hights out or anything like that. I literally will be messed if i dont fit in there. I just dont know what to do though. I have now finished college-so i have nothing to do until september and i only work one day a week (works a bit slow-an no friends there-its just me and 1 30yr old woman-we have a laugh but thats it) so im going to be screwed and go insane-dont feel like spending the next few months in my room!
Has anyone had a similar experience? is there anything you did to break out of it?
btw soz for the essay