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MikeyLE80
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So maybe this isn't the right place for this or maybe it is.
I have a place where I go to seek treatment for my mental health issues. It's pretty spacious and a few people are sociable. I really don't think I have good chances with most neurotypical women due to how much it effects my ability to work and my life experiences for the last 20 years.
So I thought maybe I'd try to talk to some women there in the large waiting room and if we got familiar over time, maybe see if I could talk to them on the phone or maybe something on the web that's less personal. The bad part is if I come off the wrong way it could be very bad. But I'm so shy I don't see this happening. Some people have boundary issues. I invent boundaries that may not exist yet.
There was one woman, and I was concerned at first she may be too young. I'm 37 and I was hoping she was at least 28. She looked really young at the distance I saw her at first, far away, older as I was a little closer. Sometimes I really can't guess age that well. My group leader is less than a year younger than me and I thought she could be 28 or younger.
BTW I'm not some kind of perv that likes younger women. It's just that most of the women there either seem like that or much older than me.
Anway, I didn't hit on her or anything, (which is a really good thing)
But I sat one seat away and it went something like this.
Me: How are you doing?
Her: Good, you?
Me: I'm doing good.
-Pause-
Me: So have you seen any good movies or tv shows lately? (I may have been talking a little fast)
Her: Uh, not really. (her voice got kind of deeper not in a good way, I think things were slightly awkward there)
-Pause-
Me: It's been nice talking to you.
Her: You too. (her voice got kind of higher, and kind of I don't know nice, like maybe she felt some sympathy for how awkward I was, as a guess)
I could say more but the rest is also so commonplace....like what happened after I got up and waited for my ride outside.
Thing is I have so much trouble talking to people I don't know that it may be the first time I've talked to a woman I don't know like this for years.
It sounds like nothing to anybody else, I suppose.
So, do you think I should try something like this again? Or was it a bad idea given the circumstances? Thing is, it's like, I don't see how this gets the result I'm looking for. I don't know how this ever goes farther then a mutual "How ya doin'?" "Good"
But maybe at least I can become a little less awkward which is still a good result.
I have a place where I go to seek treatment for my mental health issues. It's pretty spacious and a few people are sociable. I really don't think I have good chances with most neurotypical women due to how much it effects my ability to work and my life experiences for the last 20 years.
So I thought maybe I'd try to talk to some women there in the large waiting room and if we got familiar over time, maybe see if I could talk to them on the phone or maybe something on the web that's less personal. The bad part is if I come off the wrong way it could be very bad. But I'm so shy I don't see this happening. Some people have boundary issues. I invent boundaries that may not exist yet.
There was one woman, and I was concerned at first she may be too young. I'm 37 and I was hoping she was at least 28. She looked really young at the distance I saw her at first, far away, older as I was a little closer. Sometimes I really can't guess age that well. My group leader is less than a year younger than me and I thought she could be 28 or younger.
BTW I'm not some kind of perv that likes younger women. It's just that most of the women there either seem like that or much older than me.
Anway, I didn't hit on her or anything, (which is a really good thing)
But I sat one seat away and it went something like this.
Me: How are you doing?
Her: Good, you?
Me: I'm doing good.
-Pause-
Me: So have you seen any good movies or tv shows lately? (I may have been talking a little fast)
Her: Uh, not really. (her voice got kind of deeper not in a good way, I think things were slightly awkward there)
-Pause-
Me: It's been nice talking to you.
Her: You too. (her voice got kind of higher, and kind of I don't know nice, like maybe she felt some sympathy for how awkward I was, as a guess)
I could say more but the rest is also so commonplace....like what happened after I got up and waited for my ride outside.
Thing is I have so much trouble talking to people I don't know that it may be the first time I've talked to a woman I don't know like this for years.
It sounds like nothing to anybody else, I suppose.
So, do you think I should try something like this again? Or was it a bad idea given the circumstances? Thing is, it's like, I don't see how this gets the result I'm looking for. I don't know how this ever goes farther then a mutual "How ya doin'?" "Good"
But maybe at least I can become a little less awkward which is still a good result.