socializing makes me feel lonelier

[ensom]

I can have a perfectly pleasant conversation with someone and yet feel so disconnected. As a result I tend to come away from social interactions feeling even lonelier.

Anyone else?

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I hate how psychologically messed up I am.

 

[sinisterplague]

Oh yes, happened to me a few weeks ago. One thing I can tell you though is that not interacting with people as a result of this feeling won't help you in the long run.

 

[Solace]

Yes i've experienced this...

It's like, you know you won't be close to them after one talk and maybe not ever. I just don't feel like i'm on the same page as anyone. It's disheartening.

But I second that plauge warns: don't forgoe the socializing either.

There's one boy I know and i just kept talking to him every time I went to the bookstore and saw him there (he practicly lives there) I was just polite and we had the same interest in books so we chatted a lot. It took 2 years, but it's just barely starting to get to be where we could be called friends. It's encouraging, even though it took a long time.

 

[seadwell87]

when that happens to me, its just signal that i dont feel like socializing at a particular time. i need time to be properly and emotionally in tuned with myself first to tune in with other people. maybe u could try not socializing in full length conversations for a while and see if it disappears..