Perhaps the issue is that people don't view "soul mate" or "soulmate" by it's actual definition, but by their own interpretation of the term?
soulmate or soul mate (sōl′māt′)
n.
One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.
The definition above, is something attainable....do-able I guess you could say.
But, if you view today's dating sites and the like, it seems that people are looking for someone who meets some sort of lofty (and almost unattainable) criteria that's more fantasy than real.
As some of you have pointed out, one's "soulmate" might be all about perception. I do agree with that. And, I think it's certainly possible to run into someone who might mesh with you so well that you could easily apply that label to them.
However, my point in my initial post was more aimed at people looking for a person that fits their idea of a "soulmate."
I can't count the profiles I've read that, at face value, should have been perfectly acceptable, and then I run into the dreaded, "Im looking for my soulmate...that person who can complete me." And then they go on to tell you just what that entails. Maybe I feel that way because I don't feel that I could ever measure up to someone's ideal woman? Or, maybe people have unrealistic ideas of what someone else is capable of being/doing/giving. Could it be both?
Maybe the idea of starting to date someone who has such rigid notions of what's acceptable to them and what isn't that's so daunting?
Or...maybe it's the idea of, once you start to date someone, they decide that you indeed don't meet their lofty criteria of a "soulmate" and decide to dump you to continue their search for the perfect mate?
It sometimes makes me feel as though I won't ever be good enough for anyone, even though I know (in my head) that I'm a perfectly decent person, with my good points and my faults, just like every other human being on the planet.
It really makes me question my belief in myself and even question my whether or not some people should just stay clear of relationships (myself being one of them).
I find these thoughts quite disturbing at times. *frowns*