Fvantom
Well-known member
Im gonna have to say something that not many people will like, Ive been on this forum for several months and far too often Ive read threads with the basic idea of "I will be lonely my whole life and theres nothing I can do about it" I have to ask people that post this, why do you even come on here? Whats your aim of coming on these forums just to say that youll never be happy and that youve given up?
Let me tell you about myself, Im 20, turning 21 in a few weeks. Throughout my teen years, 13-17, Ive had absolutely no friends, whatsoever. You know what that means? I was a complete outcast in middle/jr high school, and never had the great memories and friends that were supposed to come out of it, you look at my 7th and 8th grade yearbooks, ya know what youll see? two signatures saying "youre weird" and "who are you?". I was an outcast in high school as well, and same thing, no happy memories, no friends. I literally think about this every single day and I always get extremely depressed, knowing that I missed a great time and that Ill never get another shot at it...but I dont give up.
Im in a hell of a lot of pain because of that, but I keep going forward, because I know things are going to get better. Ive been on these forums for a few months now and Ive talked to a few people who have straight up told me that theres no hope for them, some of which being quite young (under 30) and no matter what youve been through, if you dont look to the future, youll never be happy, look at me, never had friends until I was 18, my entire teen years I was alone, and thats the time that you need friends the most, its hard for me not to dwell on that, but I always try to make my future better.
I can come on here and post a thread saying that Ill never have friends, but where will that get me? I few people giving me empty encouragement, then the thread dies. I ask for advice here, I rant, and I get painful experiences off my chest, the one thing I dont do is give up. To give up is to fail, another thing Ive seen a lot is people saying that theyll never be happy because they have trouble talking to people. From the time I was 10, until around the time I was 14 or so, I honestly believed I was retarded, I had NO social skills, I couldnt talk to someone even if they talked to me first. Over the last year, Ive been fighting my shyness and Im now able to talk to people, Im gaining some self confidence, and Im starting to make friends, slowly but surely. To everyone who makes excuses as to why theyre lonely, youll never be happy unless you find your social faults and fix them, but complaining here isnt getting you anywhere, these forums are here for hope, we come here because were all lonely in some way or another, and we post to give/get advice, share stories, and connect with other lonely people like ourselves, but all in hope for a better tomorrow.
Sorry for TLDR, if you read this whole post all the way through, youre awesome
(Fun Fact. I typed this whole post out on my phone an hour ago, just to have my **** iphone bug out and turn off on me -________-)
Let me tell you about myself, Im 20, turning 21 in a few weeks. Throughout my teen years, 13-17, Ive had absolutely no friends, whatsoever. You know what that means? I was a complete outcast in middle/jr high school, and never had the great memories and friends that were supposed to come out of it, you look at my 7th and 8th grade yearbooks, ya know what youll see? two signatures saying "youre weird" and "who are you?". I was an outcast in high school as well, and same thing, no happy memories, no friends. I literally think about this every single day and I always get extremely depressed, knowing that I missed a great time and that Ill never get another shot at it...but I dont give up.
Im in a hell of a lot of pain because of that, but I keep going forward, because I know things are going to get better. Ive been on these forums for a few months now and Ive talked to a few people who have straight up told me that theres no hope for them, some of which being quite young (under 30) and no matter what youve been through, if you dont look to the future, youll never be happy, look at me, never had friends until I was 18, my entire teen years I was alone, and thats the time that you need friends the most, its hard for me not to dwell on that, but I always try to make my future better.
I can come on here and post a thread saying that Ill never have friends, but where will that get me? I few people giving me empty encouragement, then the thread dies. I ask for advice here, I rant, and I get painful experiences off my chest, the one thing I dont do is give up. To give up is to fail, another thing Ive seen a lot is people saying that theyll never be happy because they have trouble talking to people. From the time I was 10, until around the time I was 14 or so, I honestly believed I was retarded, I had NO social skills, I couldnt talk to someone even if they talked to me first. Over the last year, Ive been fighting my shyness and Im now able to talk to people, Im gaining some self confidence, and Im starting to make friends, slowly but surely. To everyone who makes excuses as to why theyre lonely, youll never be happy unless you find your social faults and fix them, but complaining here isnt getting you anywhere, these forums are here for hope, we come here because were all lonely in some way or another, and we post to give/get advice, share stories, and connect with other lonely people like ourselves, but all in hope for a better tomorrow.
Sorry for TLDR, if you read this whole post all the way through, youre awesome
(Fun Fact. I typed this whole post out on my phone an hour ago, just to have my **** iphone bug out and turn off on me -________-)