Jesse
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It seems like every day I figure out something new. In the past year and a half a lot of things in my life have changed. I used to never do much of anything outside of the house. I spent most of my time inside on the computer. The rest of my time was spent at work.
I've always had myself convinced that women could not like me romantically. I couldn't conceive of someone wanting to talk to me or get to know me. Things aren't how I have perceived them to be.
I've recently started taking care of myself. I've been keeping a nice goatee trimmed up. I've been wearing my contacts and I've also been getting in better shape. Since this stuff has been going on I've noticed women showing interest in me. I don't know if it's because I look like I'm taking care of myself now or if it's because I've become more active in life. Let me give you an example of what I mean.
I went to a pet store the other day to buy an aquarium for some frogs I caught. This attractive lady started talking to me and showed a beautiful smile. She was so friendly. She helped me carry things out to my car. She told me that the next day they were having a special event to celebrate the store's 10th anniversary and that I should stop by. I realized I knew she was flirting with me. I'm starting to notice stuff like this now.
I was too afraid to go back to the pet store the next day. I could not face having to talk to her again. Instead I went out with some friends. At this outing there were two young ladies that I noticed. One of them came up to me and put her hand on my chest and arm while passing me as she went inside the building. A little bit later I went in as well. After I sat down the other woman's friend came up to me and started talking with me. I noticed my anxiety rising. I couldn't take it. I went outside, found my friend's car and hid until my friends were ready to leave.
... and so I discovered the horrible truth.
The horrible truth is that I convinced myself women could not like me because I was avoiding my fear. It was an excuse I made up so I wouldn't have to face the fact that women are interested. I have to face the fact that I have no clue how to interact socially and that I'm afraid of doing something wrong or messing up somehow. I didn't have women showing interest in me because I wasn't there, I was at my computer at home. Now that I'm out and doing things where the women are, they're talking to me.
I am literally terrified. I find myself wanting to avoid going to that petstore ever again. I've thought of other pet stores that I can go to instead. What happens if someone there does the same thing as the last person? I can't keep avoiding it. I can't heal unless I face this fear. I have to get over this. I have to let it go. I must face the horrible truth. I can't hide forever.
I've always had myself convinced that women could not like me romantically. I couldn't conceive of someone wanting to talk to me or get to know me. Things aren't how I have perceived them to be.
I've recently started taking care of myself. I've been keeping a nice goatee trimmed up. I've been wearing my contacts and I've also been getting in better shape. Since this stuff has been going on I've noticed women showing interest in me. I don't know if it's because I look like I'm taking care of myself now or if it's because I've become more active in life. Let me give you an example of what I mean.
I went to a pet store the other day to buy an aquarium for some frogs I caught. This attractive lady started talking to me and showed a beautiful smile. She was so friendly. She helped me carry things out to my car. She told me that the next day they were having a special event to celebrate the store's 10th anniversary and that I should stop by. I realized I knew she was flirting with me. I'm starting to notice stuff like this now.
I was too afraid to go back to the pet store the next day. I could not face having to talk to her again. Instead I went out with some friends. At this outing there were two young ladies that I noticed. One of them came up to me and put her hand on my chest and arm while passing me as she went inside the building. A little bit later I went in as well. After I sat down the other woman's friend came up to me and started talking with me. I noticed my anxiety rising. I couldn't take it. I went outside, found my friend's car and hid until my friends were ready to leave.
... and so I discovered the horrible truth.
The horrible truth is that I convinced myself women could not like me because I was avoiding my fear. It was an excuse I made up so I wouldn't have to face the fact that women are interested. I have to face the fact that I have no clue how to interact socially and that I'm afraid of doing something wrong or messing up somehow. I didn't have women showing interest in me because I wasn't there, I was at my computer at home. Now that I'm out and doing things where the women are, they're talking to me.
I am literally terrified. I find myself wanting to avoid going to that petstore ever again. I've thought of other pet stores that I can go to instead. What happens if someone there does the same thing as the last person? I can't keep avoiding it. I can't heal unless I face this fear. I have to get over this. I have to let it go. I must face the horrible truth. I can't hide forever.