SophiaGrace said:
People are weird. You have to sniff out whether or not you should give them mental space and when to do this. Leave, come back. Leave, Come back. Otherwize your presence becomes annoying to them for some reason. Perhaps that's just how human relations work. You have to constantly work on refreshing/renewing the friendship/relationship in some way. Make them miss your presence. Then they will talk to you the next time you show up.
I've found that very few people actually reciprocate your feelings on the same level and in the same way regardless of what your feelings may be for that particular person.
Personally, i decide to move away from people when they no longer interest me because honestly I have to choose and pick who I will keep in my life permanently and I cant do this for everyone. Perhaps this is why some people keep a distance. They just arent interested in you. There is no "chemistry". So this may not be something to take personally if you think about it..
It just is..
I agree, in the past i used to try to befriend with everyone, even the ones I don't necessarily like. and of course, when u try to make friends just becoz u want connections or want to make yourself look good and popular, people r not stupid, they sooner or later find out that u r not as sincere as they thought, so they leave u. this has happened to me, and made me sad. i was sad becoz i felt that looked bad for me, not becoz i realli cared about them. like one girl who always bitches ppl behind their back, i realli dislike her for that. she is also quite dominating and controlling, but becoz i always thought myself as someone who is good with people, i befriended her. at the end i realli couldn't stand her bitching so i started to keep a distance, which upset her significantly. now she is bitching about me behind my back (karma i guess..i don't blame anyone for that)
another girl, she is very smart but at the same time arrogant, selfish and secretive. i NEVER like her, never did, never will. but becoz she is smart, and the only girl who could stay on the top (academically) as me in my group. i chose to befriend her, becoz i thought i could learn from her (study-wise) although i don't like her as a person. however, things didn't work well....she fights for every chance she gets to do things and so do I, she keeps everything to herself despite me sharing things with her, so i got hurt and started to keep things to myself, too.
one day she stopped talking to me all of sudden, and now i don't talk2 her any more.
in a way itz kinda like punishment for myself, because i was selfish myself, i befriend ppl i dunt like (as long as they r useful to me) ..at the end i lose them, and for the worse, they become your enemies...
like you said, if there is no 'chemistry' it just won't work out..doesn't matter how hard u try... ( stupid me i didn't realise that, i thought i could achieve anything i want...stupid...)
also for me, i just need to be true to myself and other ppl..and change for the better