A new life said:
Seems to me that it's all about the human need for validation, the need to be touched, and the need for pleasure.
They're addictions, and the advertising industry has done a phenomenal job of teaching us that we're losers if we don't have someone in our lives.
Excellent point new life.
We all have a natural desire for physical affection and emotional fulfillment. I certainly know it plays a strong part in my life (specifically, making me unhappy! -.- )
However, I think modern Western society has started twisting sex into something pretty screwed up really.
I mean, how many products do you see advertised now using blatant sexual hooks when they're completely inappropriate? When you look, almost everything seems to bombard that kind of sexual misinformation at you, which I find quite messed up.
I went past a storage unit being advertised the other day by a huge picture of two women with their breasts tumbling out of their bikinis. I just thought "What the hell does that have to do with renting storage space? Hooray for dumbing down."
In addition to that, modern dramas and soaps always portray people who don't screw all the time as losers, and "player" characters as popular/cool/funny. It's lazy stereotyping intended to appeal to the mindless masses who see sex with anything that moves as the epitome of their life's achievement.
Unfortunately, it's so **** prevalent now that it's capable of making even the most sensible person feel rather impressioned upon. I only noticed recently that I regarded myself as less of a "man" because I wasn't sleeping around all the time like some others - then I realised how stupid that utterly media-indoctrinated assumption is.
Darkness said:
Nope I'm still a virgin. The problem I have is I have had friendships with men and woman for years, and then all of a sudden they end up dating a guy or a girl and now all of a sudden I don't mean crap anymore. The thing that bothers me though, is most of my guy friends are just dating the girl just to get in there pants. They aren't trying to have a actual relationship. Then most of my girl friends they end up dating a guy and now they don't want nothing to do with me because they don't want to make there boyfriends jealous.
3/4 of my friends have been in multiple relationships and it seems after they have sex, they end up breaking up. Which is why I'm saying what makes the Penis and Vagina so powerful to end up ruining life times worth of friendships.
I think it's the emotional entanglement that comes with sex. The world seems to be full of people at present who love to play down emotions in sexual relationships (all this "friends with benefits" stuff).
The fact is, I don't think many people can utterly seperate the two, unless they're truly cold or manipulative. People just like to pretend they can, then when they confront those feelings their relationship goes sour.
Perfect example: Girl A and Guy B, both people I know, started casually sleeping together recently without any kind of real relationship. For a few weeks the arrangement apparently continued.
Then, at a party, Girl A was informed that Guy B wouldn't be meeting up with her for some reason. She shrugged and tried to look as if this didn't bother her at all, like it was all blase, but I could see the pain in her eyes at that moment. Sort of a look of insecurity flickered in her expression too.
I was quite surprised at how I could read her reaction like that, I guess I've spent a lot of time observing people. When I next saw him around with her mentioned in passing, he looked a little upset/dubious too.
Clearly, whatever was between them wasn't as simple as they both liked to portray it as to themselves.
I know I could never seperate sex and emotion, which is why I'm waiting for a decent relationship before I do those acts. To me, emotion is the zeitgeist of passion, sex is a purely passionate act, and so trying to have sex without some kind of emotional charge would be pointless.
Other people may feel differently, but that's how I feel. (Also a virgin, just to point out for the sake of discussion).
Socially anxious said:
Because (especially in the West, but also beyond) we live in a materialistic and hedonistic society that rejects God and a higher purpose of life.
Another true point. Sex has been cheapened for many into a disposable physical act.
Not that I'm saying it's wrong to get pleasure from sex, of course not. I try not to judge those who do, either. But I think society has persistently encouraged dumbing down of sex into a purely simple form of recreation because it's "cool", rather than see it as a significant bonding between two people.
Nolife Princess said:
I love my vajayjay ... love it so much.... more than you can ever know..... and I have a great fondness for the Penis.... the penis is a work of art. a great work of art!
And when the two meet... it is instantly a match made in heaven....~~~ la la ladeda!
Well, I guess it's nice to hear a girl speak of appreciation for the male form :shy:
As a guy, I have to say I really don't understand why ladyfolk like our intimate parts. It's a really bizarre concept to me, just beyond my understanding.
Then again, I don't know why the thought of holding a girl in a lovely hug and kissing her while playing with her hair makes me blush. Naturally hardwired stuff I guess...
