user 190701
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I have no one else to ask this, so I'm hoping you all can chime in with some good advice.
As I said in my intro, I met a guy I really liked while I was on vacation a couple of months ago. The whole trip inspired me to come home and make some positive changes in my life, and I'm doing really well with that. The only thing is that I'm just super lonely because I've cut back on all the filler stuff that was keeping my mind busy before and plan to keep it cut out until I go back there in a couple of months.
Anyway, I didn't realize I would like this guy as more than a friend, but it has come to that. We text occasionally, and I would say we have become friends and actually have concrete plans to hang out when I go back. A couple of weeks ago, during the most intimate conversation we'd ever had (as in sharing more than surface-level stuff with each other about our pasts and stuff like that) he told me he has just started casually dating someone, and I told him I was really happy for him because I thought he was such a great guy. He seemed genuinely grateful for my comments, but it was late, so I ended the conversation shortly after that, and we haven't talked since. He works long hours, and I'm sure this girl is filling up his time now. And I just feel awkward texting him first, even though he always seems happy to hear from me and even tells me I can text him anytime and that he enjoys talking to me.
I have to admit, I've become kind of addicted to talking to him, but my low self-esteem makes me constantly wonder if he really wants to talk to me or if he's just being nice. And now with another girl in the picture, I feel even more awkward. We still have two months before we see each other again. I have no idea what will become of the girl he's just started dating or if anything will happen with us, and I'm trying not to have any expectations. I'm just not sure what to do in the meantime. I want to keep talking to him as a friend. There's so much I'd like to know about him. When I do text him, though, it's not just to say hi or anything — I always act like I have a question about something he might know about.
This weekend, I went to my late mother's old house and started the process of cleaning it out, and that was actually a nice way to keep my mind off everything, but I woke up so sad this morning. I miss talking to him. I just really want to text the guy, but I'm not sure if I should and how often. I don't want to annoy him, but I'd like to keep building our friendship.
As I said in my intro, I met a guy I really liked while I was on vacation a couple of months ago. The whole trip inspired me to come home and make some positive changes in my life, and I'm doing really well with that. The only thing is that I'm just super lonely because I've cut back on all the filler stuff that was keeping my mind busy before and plan to keep it cut out until I go back there in a couple of months.
Anyway, I didn't realize I would like this guy as more than a friend, but it has come to that. We text occasionally, and I would say we have become friends and actually have concrete plans to hang out when I go back. A couple of weeks ago, during the most intimate conversation we'd ever had (as in sharing more than surface-level stuff with each other about our pasts and stuff like that) he told me he has just started casually dating someone, and I told him I was really happy for him because I thought he was such a great guy. He seemed genuinely grateful for my comments, but it was late, so I ended the conversation shortly after that, and we haven't talked since. He works long hours, and I'm sure this girl is filling up his time now. And I just feel awkward texting him first, even though he always seems happy to hear from me and even tells me I can text him anytime and that he enjoys talking to me.
I have to admit, I've become kind of addicted to talking to him, but my low self-esteem makes me constantly wonder if he really wants to talk to me or if he's just being nice. And now with another girl in the picture, I feel even more awkward. We still have two months before we see each other again. I have no idea what will become of the girl he's just started dating or if anything will happen with us, and I'm trying not to have any expectations. I'm just not sure what to do in the meantime. I want to keep talking to him as a friend. There's so much I'd like to know about him. When I do text him, though, it's not just to say hi or anything — I always act like I have a question about something he might know about.
This weekend, I went to my late mother's old house and started the process of cleaning it out, and that was actually a nice way to keep my mind off everything, but I woke up so sad this morning. I miss talking to him. I just really want to text the guy, but I'm not sure if I should and how often. I don't want to annoy him, but I'd like to keep building our friendship.