Hey,
Just sitting here on a Sunday afternoon, thinking about how I can get out of this 'rut'. Most weekends consist of me sleeping, eating, watching a movie, or playing a game. I know the main reason I do this every weekend is lack of friends, but it's really starting to get to me. During the week is a little better, because I work, come home, eat, sleep, repeat.
I would really like to find new friends (just people to talk to / go out with), or maybe even a girlfriend, but certain factors are making me think that I can't. A run down of me would be:
Good:
- Graduated uni last year and have a good job
- I'm healthy
Bad:
- I still live at home (at 26 turning 27 in a month).
- I am car-less (crashed mine, so at the moment I take public transport to work).
- I'm shy and meeting people is hard.
My mum tells me that she likes me living at home, and that I shouldn't have to move out until I absolutely want to, but at the same time I feel like it would be impossible to make friends / or have a girlfriend while still living here without my independence. I feel like no-one would respect me.
I live extremely minimal at the moment, and I've been trying to save so that I can get a place of my own, and be more independent, but at the moment it's that "waiting" which is killing me. I tell myself that If I just stay in this lonely position for a year/two/three more, then I can have saved up enough to branch out on my own a little more securely.
I know that I *probably* could move out now, put things on finance, live wage-to-wage but making such a move really scares me. I do not have a rich family (my mum earns minimum wage and has suffered too much), my brother is mentally ill (doesn't work and probably never will, and has made life very hard), and I don't have anyone else. So I already know that if anything happened to my mother, I would probably let my brother have the house we live in (I mean, without it he would be on the street). So I have this feeling that if I don't succeed I have nothing to fall back on, so I don't want to risk going into debt.
It's just the prospect of "knowing" I will be lonely for at least the next few years which is making me feel quite depressed.
Does anyone relate to this at all? would be very nice to hear any advice.
Just sitting here on a Sunday afternoon, thinking about how I can get out of this 'rut'. Most weekends consist of me sleeping, eating, watching a movie, or playing a game. I know the main reason I do this every weekend is lack of friends, but it's really starting to get to me. During the week is a little better, because I work, come home, eat, sleep, repeat.
I would really like to find new friends (just people to talk to / go out with), or maybe even a girlfriend, but certain factors are making me think that I can't. A run down of me would be:
Good:
- Graduated uni last year and have a good job
- I'm healthy
Bad:
- I still live at home (at 26 turning 27 in a month).
- I am car-less (crashed mine, so at the moment I take public transport to work).
- I'm shy and meeting people is hard.
My mum tells me that she likes me living at home, and that I shouldn't have to move out until I absolutely want to, but at the same time I feel like it would be impossible to make friends / or have a girlfriend while still living here without my independence. I feel like no-one would respect me.
I live extremely minimal at the moment, and I've been trying to save so that I can get a place of my own, and be more independent, but at the moment it's that "waiting" which is killing me. I tell myself that If I just stay in this lonely position for a year/two/three more, then I can have saved up enough to branch out on my own a little more securely.
I know that I *probably* could move out now, put things on finance, live wage-to-wage but making such a move really scares me. I do not have a rich family (my mum earns minimum wage and has suffered too much), my brother is mentally ill (doesn't work and probably never will, and has made life very hard), and I don't have anyone else. So I already know that if anything happened to my mother, I would probably let my brother have the house we live in (I mean, without it he would be on the street). So I have this feeling that if I don't succeed I have nothing to fall back on, so I don't want to risk going into debt.
It's just the prospect of "knowing" I will be lonely for at least the next few years which is making me feel quite depressed.
Does anyone relate to this at all? would be very nice to hear any advice.