michael2
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Today it dawned on me the primary reason Id like a relationship is I wanted someone to validate me. I was watching a movie where the parents of a child were watching her with pride in a school play and they congratulated her and complimented her afterwards. And I realized thats what I wanted a relationship for. Someone who recognizes your accomplishments, who roots for you, whose there to encourage and assist you. I guess I never had that in my life. Maybe because I never really did anything to deserve admiration. But its something I wanted subconsciously, and I had hoped to find it in a relationship.
Now knowing my primary and biggest reason for wanting a relationship was selfish, suddenly I dont really want one anymore. Its also left me wondering what are nonselfish reasons for wanting to be in a relationship? It might be obvious, but its not to me, because its something I've never really thought about.
Now knowing my primary and biggest reason for wanting a relationship was selfish, suddenly I dont really want one anymore. Its also left me wondering what are nonselfish reasons for wanting to be in a relationship? It might be obvious, but its not to me, because its something I've never really thought about.