I think it can be both. Personally, I know I've said similar things (and meant them) but it can be months before I actually follow it up and something happens. From the other person's perspective, I'm sure it looks as though I've made the suggestion without meaning it.putter65 said:People say to me 'oh we'll have to do that together' - I sometimes wonder if they mean it or are they just saying it to be nice.
Is it possible that this woman is thinking similar things to you? When she said "we'll play golf" it looks like she was wanting a positive response from you and she then backed away when you didn't follow it up. The fact that she sent you such a nice message when you got in touch with her seems to confirm this.putter65 said:It's this woman I'm friends with. She has started showing an interest in golf and we have played on two occasions. When I saw her on Sunday she said she wanted to play more regular. When I was leaving I said 'if I don't see you before your holidays, have a lovely time' - she replied -'oh you will, we'll play golf' - I smiled but I never said anything or followed it up. I am always like that and I hate myself for it.
Anyway on Wednesday she went and played with some other guy. She commented on it on facebook (she never did when we played) - I was a bit miffed but didn't show it. I started chatting with her facebook and asked her she played etc. She was buzzing with all the stories of her golf round. I said -'we'll have to play soon' and she said 'defo' - Anyway I said I had some spare clubs for her and she seemed delighted about that. A few hours later I sent her a message telling her about the clubs I had for her. She sent the nicest message back saying she loves playing the game and she would like me to coach her and make her a better player.
I'm in two minds about it. I don't know whether to ask her next week if she wants to play or just accept she probably will end up playing with the other guy and I'm just a spare part.
putter65 said:It's easy not to try though. It is so tempting not to do anything. I'm glad I seem to getting more confidence.
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