liberal_soul
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Hi all,
I am a 28 year old guy. just to give a brief about myself: i am considered by people around to me to be very sociable, desirable and trustworthy. i am employed (lol), and i have friends. so, from the outside - here is a chap with all going well.
well, wait a minute.. is that so, really?
nooo.. i suppose i have a strange issue; i fall in love with women who[/font] do not reciprocate my feelings. certainly not their fault, if they have done so, that was with proper reasons of their own. i find ways to love them insoite of many factors that shouts out loud that it would be a difficult task. but i still find ways to fall in love with them! and, to add to that, what i dont understand is: even after they make it clear that a relationship is impossible, i cant let them go and i wont let them go. i just hang on and on until it becomes a disaster with the word mess written all over. well, i know one thing that i am good at - once it becomes a super-mess, i leave. oh yes, i define leaving. there is perhaps no better leaver. u know why? i disappear from their world. and what happens? i lose yet another friend or contact.
now, can someone help me to figure out a way to not depend on a girl for love? i have found that i spend little time thinking about myself, instead i think about them! i care about them like a parent does and i am all theirs when they require some help. i expect them to call me, always, yes i said always, and i count the days when they havent gotten in touch with me! and yes, i did say i am male!! all i need to be is a focussed person who doesnt wait for a women to call or text. i just want to be strong.
i could go on for ever, but that wont solve the problem, will it?
any suggestions anyone? i am in need of some helping hand.
I am a 28 year old guy. just to give a brief about myself: i am considered by people around to me to be very sociable, desirable and trustworthy. i am employed (lol), and i have friends. so, from the outside - here is a chap with all going well.
well, wait a minute.. is that so, really?
nooo.. i suppose i have a strange issue; i fall in love with women who[/font] do not reciprocate my feelings. certainly not their fault, if they have done so, that was with proper reasons of their own. i find ways to love them insoite of many factors that shouts out loud that it would be a difficult task. but i still find ways to fall in love with them! and, to add to that, what i dont understand is: even after they make it clear that a relationship is impossible, i cant let them go and i wont let them go. i just hang on and on until it becomes a disaster with the word mess written all over. well, i know one thing that i am good at - once it becomes a super-mess, i leave. oh yes, i define leaving. there is perhaps no better leaver. u know why? i disappear from their world. and what happens? i lose yet another friend or contact.
now, can someone help me to figure out a way to not depend on a girl for love? i have found that i spend little time thinking about myself, instead i think about them! i care about them like a parent does and i am all theirs when they require some help. i expect them to call me, always, yes i said always, and i count the days when they havent gotten in touch with me! and yes, i did say i am male!! all i need to be is a focussed person who doesnt wait for a women to call or text. i just want to be strong.
i could go on for ever, but that wont solve the problem, will it?
any suggestions anyone? i am in need of some helping hand.